Has my boyfriend cheated??

Question

Hi..me and my partner have been together over 3years and did have a good relationship. But at one point my boyfriend and his friend were hanging around with these two girls one which his friend was dating and cheating on. Obviously my parnter knew he was cheating on her. Then when I was out (& so was my parnter) one of the girls claimed that my bf got the other girl pregnant and had an abortion. I went MAD! my bf denies it he says they r getting bk at him coz he knew about his friend cheating, but im not sure coz i was at uni half the time they were 'together' and he was at a low coz his dad died at around that time(and a couple of months later i kissed someone and i told my bf straight away and we had got over it) But then again ive seen the girls before and they had not said anything to me until recently! Any ideas?? help. thanks

Answer 1

Two girls + your boyfriend & his friend, & you didn't get suspicious of that arrangement?? What did you think was happening when your boyfriend & this other girl was 'hanging around'? Sometimes ignorance is bliss, huh?

Answer 2

That's a tough one because girls can be nasty when they don't get what they want and then on the other hand, guys can be sly to keep their secret. Hmm, I think you will always have it in the back of your mind that your bf cheated. If you can live with that even though he denies it, then so be it, but if you constantly think about it and wonder what he's doing every time he goes out, then I don't think your relationship will survive. Or you could be sneaky and follow him when he goes out.

Answer 3

been there and forgave 4 times. If you feel something smells fishy- go with the instinct and don't make excuses for his behaviour. He will have to face up to his losses when you're no longer there. That doesn't mean go back to him. Get over him ASAP and move on to someone better. My ex's mother passed away and he used that as a guise. Forget it- sympathy vote is not worth it!

Answer 4

think about it, he probably has at one point or the other in those 3 yrs. what u shld be thinkin of is if u can go on with it if u actually have proof that he cheated, or if u want to end it. think about that and u have ur answer.it psychologically hurts u if u know someone has cheated, and if u think u can't live with it, then move on.

Answer 5

you should get things straighten up between you too. dont let things go on just like that. get him to talk and he might tell you the truth. he might have cheated on you cause the kinds of friends he goes out with. if your friends are cheaters and they will enfluence you to do the same.

Answer 6

Let me get this straight. You are bright enough to be educated at University and you have somehow got yourself in this position.

It also sounds like Jeremy Kyle is the only one who can get you out.

Good luck!

Answer 7

You can't believe what these girls are saying - he is right they could be stirring things up - the only person who can tell you the truth is your b/f - and whether you believe him or not depends on whether you trust him.

Answer 8

its hard 2 tell if hes cheated on u its his word against theirs. do u think he would did u suspect him of cheatin b4 u found that out?? i hope its just words of spit and not the truth feel free 2 contact me in the future if u wanna chat.

Answer 9

not trusting may be about you and not him.
talk with him assertively,and the answers could lie in the eye contact,and his tone of voice.
as a woman you should be able to hear and see the truth,but you need to trust your instincts..run along and see

Answer 10

only you will know if your bf has cheated, if you dont believe him when he says he hasnt then there is no trust there and without trust you cant have a proper relationship.