i always seem to get the guyz that are 1. gross, dirty, or just plain weird or 2. just wanna use me-either for someone to hang out with for a weekend b4 moving back to florida or just wants ppl to think hes a pimp or something. can u help me get the guyz i really wnat? and how would i get a guy that doesnt seem to be in my league? also, how can i impress these guys or talk to them or get to know them better?
2007-01-29 10:09:49 · 17 answers · asked by gennydell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My answer will probably be the the one you don't want to hear. Stop looking! There's nothing wrong with wanting a boyfriend, but when you're obviously in search of that special someone, you send out a sort of "desperation beacon" picked up by every loser within a five mile radius. They will then rush in to take advantage of you, telling you what you want to hear in order to get what they want.
The best way to find the right person for you is to focus on ways to be happy with yourself. Look for activities that you enjoy and most importantly, enjoy them! You will then radiate a sort of self-satisfied contentment that decent men will respond to. A loser isn't going to approach a woman who looks like she's quite enjoying her own company.
The beauty of this plan is that even if you never find the right person, you'll gradually realize that you never really needed a man to complete you. It's a no-lose strategy and I highly recommend it.
2007-01-29 10:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by Scheming Angel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are looking for the down to earth type of guys. THose are the shy, trust me I should know. Guys that are down to earth are just themselves, wheteher its being goofy, hanging out, just a good time. To help u get those is easy just be yourslef and dont be too hasty if a guy does ask you out. One of the reasons - is women have high expectations that some guys dont qualify for, so they try to impress the girl by matching her standards even though she wants a normal guy. As for the league thing, i don't really understand that part. Theres no need to impress anyone, just be yourself, and see if you two connect on a certain level or in a certain subject. Find common ground.
Just know that standards or guidelines, don't really mean a thing if you wan to find the right person.
Sorry if I seem repetitive, but I like to help.Also if I didn't provide much help then just delete this.
2007-01-29 18:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by caring black guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always employ the test of time, and generally observe more, no character trait can ever be hidden for long. Note that no man is perfect so that you will have to make some compromise whenever the need arises.
The one could be anyone, spend more time getting to know yourself better so that you can always show yourself to be you... what I'm trying to say is, birds of the same feather...
2007-01-29 18:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by agboola f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know the guy one step at time. Your rules, your timing, do not let yourself be pushed into something you are not ready to do. Ask yourself what you want in a mate and assure yourself that he is at least 60 or 70% of what you want. Otherwise move on. If you want some out of your league, state it, and do not be embarrassed. Hold out for what you want. Try new web sites like match.com or sugardaddie.com. Put yourself out there, but hold out for what you want!
2007-01-29 18:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by hebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People usually attract others who are at their "level". The higher your self-esteem, the higher quality guys you will attract. This doesn't mean you act vain, just confident. Also, in conversation, try to keep the emphasis off yourself and ask about them. Everyone likes to talk about themselves, and this is very flattering. Also, you will find out if they are a jerk and avoid the wasted time dating them. Don't settle for anything less than you think you deserve.
2007-01-29 18:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best impression is being YOURSELF! Stop trying to impress... For those in for a "treat" or "booty call" "weekend endeaver" - don't make yourself available for this. Saying, I'm not into "whatever ________" doesn't make you a beotch, it makes you attractive and a lady! Go out to have FUN! For YOU! Not for someone else...
2007-01-29 18:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm....i have this problem myself except with girl's i never seem to find the right one.....what i sugest is patience..i hope you have lot's of it....there IS someone out there for you and we must go through all the hard relationship's to make our final one last, if you get what i mean. we learn from our mistakes and pain there Is a guy out there that's the oposite of that and you will definitly meet him one day in the mean time have fun and enjoy your single life......good luck !
2007-01-29 18:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by superman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress differently. Stop going to slezey bars.
Don't settle for anything but the best my dear. And don't jump straight into bed with anyone.
2007-01-29 18:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by Moz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it doesn't just happen when you find a good guy, you have to be friends with them for a while and if the y like you and you like them, it just clicks. but believe me, i still haven't figured out the answer to this question.
2007-01-29 18:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by some_slow_person 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit trying to be someone else and be yourself. You will find someone.
Oh and FYI, We are all gross, dirty and just plain weird.
2007-01-29 18:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋