help me !!!!!!!!?????

Question

im love my gf and i like to speak with her a lot, so much that sometimes i ignore my friends without wanting to. when i asked them if there mad at me because of that they told me no, but are they really not mad ??? what do i have to do to stay with my gf and still keep there friendship ??

Answer 1

Hmm...I really don't know about this one. See, I'm a girl and I don't think I can speak for guys in the same way I feel in that situation, but I'll try! My friend recently (okay, it's been like 3 months...) got a boyfriend who she loves spending time with--so much time. I always say it's okay that she's spending a lot of time with him, especially since her last boyfriend was a jerk and never took her on dates. And the thing is, I did think it was a good change and it was really cute how they hung together, at first...It's just been really annoying lately how they're always together. She knows she can make more time for her friends, but spends every free moment with him--and I absolutely hate the PDA part, that bothers me so much. HOWEVER, it is fun when I hang out with the two of them--that's something you can do. I hate it when I'm the third wheel in the situation, but it's always fun when it's them two, me, and another friend hanging out. See, if you do that, then you'll be able to hang out with your gf and your friends. It's always fun in a situation like that, for me, because my friend's boyfriend actually joins in on doing stupid stuff to her (my friend)...get it? Basically, he becomes closer friends with us (her friends) and that makes things better for everyone with the whole hangout situation...

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry for rambling up there, but I hope I've given you some insight on how to fix the awkward, hated situation between gf/bfs and friends...

Good luck and have a nice day!

Answer 2

The first thing you have to give priority between love and frienship is "Friendship" if the people whome you are calling are really your friends. It is a true fact that any one who loves some one lot like to talk with him or her for a lot of time, that does not mean that you should ignore your friends. Got it?
You should even give priority to your friends as well as to your gf..
you should also take out some time to meet your friends and share some time with them Coz in some case friends are the only one who are gonna help you. because the help which your friends can do for you the same thing cannot be done by your girl friends. So according to my point of view you should not call them mad or something which hurts them but you should make them understand in the nicest possible manner.
ok then take care,
may god bless you.

Answer 3

You'll have to allow some private time with your friends in order to maintain their friendhip and company. The problem with being in a one-on-one relationship is we tend to devote most, if not all, of our time with the one person. While this is well-intentioned, it is not healthy socially. We still need the benefits of interaction with other people so as to develop broad/objective social perspectives/skills and learn from various sources.

There is also a chance that the one-on-one relationship may not thrive for long. This is another risk we take and if we've put our "eggs in one basket," so to speak, who'll be there for us when the "basket breaks and all the eggs are broken?"

One thing you can do is arrange for an activity or activities that will include both your friends and girlfriend, e.g., a group outing to the movies, the mall, bowling, ice-skating, a get-together at your place, etc. This'll give your friends and girlfriend a chance to get to know each other and allow you to spend time with everyone.

Answer 4

Outside interests is healthy in a relationship, just make sure you have some nights which are just "boy" nights when your gf is not around. And don't worry too much, so long as you haven't completely shut them out, at some point they'll go through the same thing and probably won't give you a second thought!! If they're all single they may also be slightly envious of you. Just enjoy your life on this world and don't stress yourself out too much!!

Answer 5

hum ..... that is a tuffie !! well guys r a lot like girls when they say to ur face nothing is wrong what they really mean is ( r u kidding of course something is wrong ) !!! so what i would do is when ur done talkin to ur gf dont jus stand there like an idot ..... go do somethin w/ the guys !! and jus sort-of flip flop if can !! trust me ur gf dosent want u around 4 ever !! she want to talk about u w/ her friends ( in a good way like bragging ) and if u can try to associate ur gf w/ ur friends !! it may or may not work but if u want to keep both is is worth a shot !!

Answer 6

You need to spead your time with them an her. say 3 days with them an 4 with her that way every 1 is happy good luck. Just make sure you are always there for your friends because you will god forbid you ever split from your GF.

xx

Answer 7

dont pay as much attention to your gf. she'll understand. friends are important to. make sure you give them some of your time too. becuase, gf's will come and go, but friends will last a lifetime, if you play your cards right.

Answer 8

well, you should know if their mad or not. just set the balance straight. get sometime for your girl but make sure you keep your friends in. How bout you help them be friends so you can get them to hang out TOGETHER :D


Good luck.

Answer 9

you need to make time for your guys away from your girl, she should understand that you need to give your friends the time of day once in a while. also, why not all hang together. I'm friends with my hubby's friends and I'll even hang with or without him around.

Answer 10

I'm afraid you cant have the best of both worlds. You don't fall out with your mates they just become sort of less important (not said that really well but don't know any others).They will soon find there No.1 Its part of growing up. Best of luck.