We hardly ever go out. We've been "talking" for about a month, and have only been out on 2 dates. He is the sweetest, most caring guy i've ever met, but i'm really about to say F it cuz i'm just tired of always waiting for him to suggest we do something. I really wanna know just what his freakin deal is. This is so frustrating. He tells me everyday how much he likes me and i'm girlfriend material and all this crap, but he never wants to spend any quality time with me. I can't take this, i'm really losing my patience. I just need some suggestions on what to do...
2007-01-29 10:00:49 · 18 answers · asked by Ms. Tesi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe hes poor and cant afford to do anything, idk
2007-01-29 10:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy may be attracted to you, but he may already be in a relatioship that he is not willing to break; he may simply want to be your friend, he may be goal directed and know that having a girlfriend can take his time if he is a serious student. Love can wait, and if the relationship is meant to be it will happen. Find a common interest for now (such as a sport) and just work on a once a week thing for now. Take is slow my fine lady.
2007-01-29 10:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by Deborah S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just ask him what his deal is. I have a "friend" who would act the very same way till I did ask, and he straight out told me I shouldn't be played around with and that he wasn't ready for a serious relationship so we are Friends which is nice cause I know the day we are a couple I wont get hurt. Sometimes us girls could be very pushy and that's why we get hurt.
2007-01-29 10:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by worried 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wold ask him straight up what he is looking for in a relationship, if he is even looking for a relationship at all. Try suggesting doing something your self and see what he says. Maybe he is waiting on you to make a move too. Maybe he wants to make sure that you want him like he wants you.
2007-01-29 10:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,
obviously he thinks ur gonna be there forever for him,
show him ur not his dog and that u do have a life.
i would suggest that you tell him what u just said and then tell him u really want to be serious or else u will find someone else.
2007-01-29 10:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just fall back a bit.. talk to him and see where his head is at. he might say your girlfriend material but he might not be ready to take that step, he's probably not ready to get involved just yet.
2007-01-29 10:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by Blake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time he says that ur girlfriend material ask him if he's ur boyfriend but say it casually dont be scared itll take threee seconds of ur life and then it'll be over
2007-01-29 10:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Fellinlovetoday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stress it. either way too much hanging out can ruin it. just let him know how you feel. if he cant understand you then it was never gonna work out in the first place.
2007-01-29 10:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. he may be just like me and just be to shy to talk to others. Just very very self concious on whether to take chances
2007-01-29 10:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by Patsy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is poor and can't afford dates.
2007-01-29 10:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly, you are the type of person who wants the guy to take the lead - he won't suit you so............dump him!
2007-01-29 10:04:50 · answer #11 · answered by Oldie from Bristol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋