My husband thinks I don't do anything at home.?

Question

! have two children ages 10 months to 27 months. I have been really busy with my daughter, because we have to go to physical therapy every week for a problem she has, I'm trying to potty train my son, I always have two dogs also, and one is 8 months old and not potty trained. In the winter the dog stays in at night in our laundry room. Every time I wake up, there is four or five craps in the room and pee everywhere! We just resuced this dog. I can't potty train it. My routine is waking up around 7:30 am and cleaning from that point on. My son makes small spills and I am constantly cleaning up, my son tries to help, but makes the mess worse. It's okay as long as he is helping. My husband changes 3 times a day and throws the clothes everywhere. He is always mad that he doesn't have clothes. I can't maintain a life with my kids and clean constantly like he wants. What should I do? He is like a hurricane when he comes home, he goes to work and I have to clean his mess over and over again

38 minutes ago
My husband comes home and "trashes" the place. I have to constantly clean. He says it's what the wife should do since he goes to work. No wife should have to constantly pick up after her husband and know which clothes that he threw on the floor are dirty or clean. It's horrible. He always calls me worthless and lazy, I know he doesn't mean it, and he is upset, but gosh, what can I do?

Answer 1

He calls you worthless and lazy ?

Take the kids on a holiday and leave him at home with the dogs... let him see the amount of work that you do.

I have 2 kids about the same ages as your kids. Luckily for my, my hubby works from home, so he sees the amount of work I have just looking after the kids and doing the housework.

Just because you don't bring home money doesn't make you worthless. You are busy raising the kids, doing housework and cleaning up after the dogs as well as your husband.

I bet you also don't get much "me" time either, yet hubby gets to come home, put his feet up and expect you to serve him hand and foot huh ?

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Take a vacation. Just you. Leave for maybe 3 days. He will soon see what it is that you do. My husband started to be more careless with his messes once I stayed home to take care of the baby. I think he thought since I was home all day instead of working, he expected me to constantly clean. When I didn't wash his clothes (they weren't in the hamper!) he complained but I told him I was only taking care of one baby.

Honestly, men have no idea how much we do. They go from their momma taking care of them, to their girlfriends, to their wives and don't appreciate it because they have always been cared for. Mommas - stop babying your sons... you see what happens to them?!