Women: Why not be honest about what you really want?

Question

What's wrong with just being honest? It's always the best policy.

Why not just say want equality in certain circumstances only?

Why not just say plainly, we want equal or superior treatment in some circumstances (e.g. jobs) but superior treatment in other circumstances?

Why not admit you want men to be treated better than a men - to stand while you sit, open your doors, withstand the cold so you can be warm (wearing his jacket), pay for your dates (at least the first few), and defer to you in many "chivalrous" ways.

The problems arise when (some women) say they want to be treated "equally", but won't admit that they mean equal in some situations and better in others.

There is nothing wrong with wanting it all.

Why not just admit it?

Answer 1

That would makes things too black and white, far too cut and dried for many of the fairer sex.

They want to want to be able to complete as an equal with a man for a job, but expect that same man to stand up so she can sit on the train ride home.

She'll say that is simply good manners - that apply to men but not women.

It is considered "good manners" for HIM to treat her with deference, but NOT bad manners for her to NOT treat him with equal deference. Yet, they are supposedly equal?

The nature of humans, both men and women will not change.

Most women will always crave special treatment that men will never get - or necessarily want anyway.

Just the way it is. But, when you find that special one, you want to do it anyway. And you both can end up reasonably happy despite the illogic.

Answer 2

I admit it whole heartedly. Why? Because I gave birth to our children, something he will never do, and can't be capable of. I want treated like a queen--plain and simple. Why? Because I treat my husband like a King. I wake him every morning with a BJ and a cup of coffee(that's right EVERY MORNING). I cook, clean and take care of our children. He is never without a hot meal, clean clothes or anything he needs. I am capable of being the bread winner( I am a CPA, he is a roofer/sheet metal apprentice), however I choose to stay home. I balance the check book, buy all wants and needs for our family, have a great sex life and by all means better be treated like a queen. I would love to have equality in the work place, however it is not a normal thing, as society has deemed that the men are the bread winners and females not. It isn't true when you are a single mom though right? I don't think that my relationship is unfair, he gets everything he wants and so do I. It is a two way street--but as far as wanting it all you are darn right--I have earned--and so has he!!

Answer 3

Because women are women, the female mind is much too complex for even fellow females to understand.

When we say we want equality in circumstances, we're aggravated and annoyed that you won't give us the chance to show you that we can do what you can do - so to tell you this, we fall back on the old 'treat me as if we are equal'.

Some girls don't want the flowers, door opening stuff, but if we do, we're just into general chivalry, and to us - it isn't dead. Plus, we feel like it's just a nice, courteous, gentleman thing to do and EVERY girl wants a gentleman. We also think that YOU should know anyway what we want and what we don't want, no matter what situations arise. If you can't read our minds - you're out of luck!

That's just the female mind for you.

Answer 4

women human beings are not unavoidably dishonest about what they are seeking for in a guy - they merely settle for decrease than what they want and post with each and every of the *bleep* they don't desire. ought to they settle and post with it? for sure no longer. yet they do and no one is conscious why, least of all them. and obviously, human beings change their habit once they have been relationship a lengthy time period. a lady would imagine she's with a astounding guy - each and every thing she's searching for - a three hundred and sixty 5 days later and his authentic shades are showing and he isn't any longer the finished guy she concept he become. She then has to verify even if to provide it a danger, stick it out and want he will go back to the guy he become at the same time as they first were given jointly (unclear), or perhaps if she advantages extra effective and run at the same time as she has the prospect. Statistically, women human beings will in many cases stay and post with the crap at the same time as hoping the guy will bypass decrease back to the way he become, which like I stated, is unclear. in the adventure that they are no longer chuffed consisting of his habit, they are gonna whinge. They stay and they whinge instead of transferring on. So there ya bypass. You sound somewhat bitter. Did a lady merely chop up with you perchance? Or are you between the "strong adult males" who's getting exceeded up for jerks and also you're pissed off with it?

Answer 5

Don't count me in. I'm still from the old school. A man should still drop his coat in the mud on the ground so i don't get my shoes dirty. I grew up watching women take over and watched men become sissies because of it. But to each his own. Can't find a man now a days that will stay behind on a sinking ship and put the women first. If any man out there says he would? Then he is not being honest.
Take care.

Answer 6

We dont say what we want for the simple fact that if we tell you guys then there is nothing special about what they are doing nothing, if we told you that we want to have candles lit up around the house and get a massage when we get home from work then it aint special because you didnt think of it by yourself. And yea i suppose you have a point about being equal, it is just we dont want to be treated as some dumb girl that is only good for 'a good time'.

Answer 7

I think you're getting too philosophical. When a guy opens the door for me, I don't see it as being treated "better", it's just common courtesy - just as it's common courtesy for me to serve drinks to my guests at a party. There are certain guidelines that one goes by in a society, and being polite to one another and respecting these guidelines doesn't have anything to do with "equality" or being superior or inferior. Feeling that opening a door for your date is a gesture that makes her "superior" somehow is a weird way to look at it, IMO. Any relationship is a give-and-take, and both partners should be polite and thoughtful. You might open the door for her, and she might serve you dinner - no one is inferior or superior because of it. Keeping score is silly.

Answer 8

You will get different answers from different persons on this one, which might surprise you, since you seem to think that all women are the same and dishonest at that. (You're not serious, are you?)

I am honest. I want equality. I pay for myself and make my own living. Yes, I want it all. Which means that I want women to have 50 % of the world. And if you don't want to, don't bother to open the door for me. I will open the door for you, because I consider myself polite.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Hold on Mr. Honesty is the Best Policy--

How many men admit what they really want? How many men are honest about anything? How many men don't want to be treated as superiors? How many men don't want it all?

How many men actually ask a woman what she really wants? It's a two-way street, and a shame that both sides are dishonest.

Answer 10

Don't presume to speak for me. I don't want to be treated as a man, I want to be treated as a lady. Yes I wan't my husband to open doors for me because I cook his supper for him. Wearing your jacket? Girls don't have jackets where you come from? I know I know...your talking about when a girl is spending time with you and it gets later and chillier and you offer her your coat. What kind of a HEEL of a man would sit snug and cozy with his 40% more muscle mass creating more body heat with a jacket to boot while his supposed respected and loved lady shivers. Yipes! I would think that is a natural response of caring for the weaker sex.
I only WISH equality was what occurred in my job. I always get the dirtiest jobs. I'm the one that cleans the bathroom, scrubbing toilets and washing out whisker covered sinks. I'm the one that changes poopy diapers and spray and washes the "skid marks" out of certain ppl's underpants. I'm the one that played human pacifier for my children so that our children would be healthier. Breastfeeding isn't easy. The ol' gals will never be the same. I clean up every nasty thing from every bodily orifice when they are sick or well. Not to mention socializing these lil mini humans? The lil heathen wouldn't use a napkin had we demanding women not prevent them from using their sleeves.

So once a week or less, when we can spray the filth off us and manage to slap a layer of make-up on to hide the dark circles under our eyes and the worry lines over our eyebrows...I can say...my man BETTER open a door for me! I'm a career girl, to be sure, but my career pays in hugs and kisses and in that my kids turn out good and grounded and happy. So Mr. Resentful who sounds like a woman hater...I'm not interested in your rant about having to treat women equal!