before you orally please him? If things were going good in a bar or club, would you do it for him in his car and go back inside? the restroom? an alley? would you expect him to return the favor? do you feel that this is not as bad as having sex with them?
p.s. this is a female asking for female opinions!!!
2007-01-29 09:22:05 · 55 answers · asked by tonyandsteff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am a HAPPILY married 23 year old naive woman who is bitterly finding out about the soils of society and i want to know what the general consensus is! i dont want to believe the person who is telling me things like this really happen, so im asking around!
2007-01-29 09:28:51 · update #1
hey there girly
well I've only orally done one guy and it was 5 months into the relationship, and well before him there was only 4 guys I had ever been with....... and we did it in some odd places the park table the bathroom at school, so it's okay don't worrie aight???
still dreaming in idaho
stacy
2007-01-29 09:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Stacy ` B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How well do you have to know a guy before you orally please him?
* That's tough to answer. Chemestry speaks higher...
If things were going good in a bar or club, would you do it for him in his car and go back inside?
* If things are going good, why go back to the club or bar...
the restroom?
an alley?
*Depends on the surprise factor.
would you expect him to return the favor?
*No.
do you feel that this is not as bad as having sex with them?
* As bad.... God, both are delicious, even if you find out the guy is a freak, if it was a magic moment for both of you, there's no way to be a bad thing. Even if it ends in a sexual relation.
Just remember: Magic and chemestry are EVERYTHING between a man and a woman.
Hugs!
2007-01-29 09:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by Valentinna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't do anything oral unless I have been with the guy for a long time and I know we are committed to eachother. But heck yeah - I love doing things like that. Being spontaneous is a great thing in a relationship. And yes you should expect it back. I think having sex and oral sex are very serious things. You can't put one over the other. You have to be responsible with both, cause if u make the wrong decision it can effect you for the rest of your life.
2007-01-29 09:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is sex. It includes Oral, Manual or Intercourse. I think having Oral sex with a man you know for a few minutes is just as bad as having sex with a guy you know for a few minutes. The only thing is you can't use a condom for Oral Sex, and this increases the chance of STD, even if he does not ejaculate into your mouth there is still small amounts of precum which still contains millions of sperm that carry STDs. If a man is willing to go to a car for you to orally please him, it's likely his done it with others. This is your future that you hold at stake for having oral sex with a complete stranger. You should be at least dating a guy and know a lot about him and his history before you have any physical contact with them. Knowing a guy from a club in a bar is the worst thing to do, you go to the bar do this to a guy, the guy will spread your name around to other guys and then next thing you know your sucking off 20 men a week. Don't put yourself into the situation that could be life threatening, not knowing a guy that well and doing that with him could lead him to want more than just oral and it could lead to rape. Please think ractionally.
2007-01-29 09:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by beth3988 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to know him well enough to know his business. It is more about trust and safety than morality. If I don't know him well but sense that I can trust him and I still feel inclined (unlikely), then I will use protection.
Does it sound like a smart idea for a woman alone to walk into a private place with a stange man to seek sexual encounters? The potiential for fun is there but the risk is too great for me.
As far as is there a difference in my mind between oral sex and vaginal, the answer is not really. The threat of disease is the same. You have to protect yourself.
2007-01-29 09:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by mrbuttons 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how long, but how comfortable you are with him. I would like for him to return the favor (but that's just me) because oral is kind of not-my-thing. I feel it is not as bad as sex, but whoever said having sex is bad? How old are you anyway, just wondering. I would do it at home or somewhere. I probably would not do it in an alley, restroom because I am not that horny lol.
Do not go by "if you know him, blow him" that is ridiculous.
2007-01-29 09:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by Sheila 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I usually have to be on a couple of dates with the guys before I do that.. I want him to want me too.... I would in the car or wherever as long as I knew him longer than 2 weeks.. then I have kind of an idea what kind of lifestyle he has... I have to admit, I have had a one night stand, but there was protection used and No oral sex!!
2007-01-29 09:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. I think this is one of those things that is different for everyone. I have to say, though, that it's good to know someone well enough that you either get tested beforehand for STDs, feel comfortable using protection or you know their dating history well enough that you could take a calculated risk. I don't think that a few moments of pleasure are worth a lifetime of something like herpes, but maybe that's just how I roll. Why not just pleasure him manually and let him get on his knees for you first? ;) Ladies first, in all situations...
2007-01-29 09:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by a.lady.in.the.street 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm... you might be considered a SLUT or a WHORE. If you don't know the guy and wanna give him some head be careful for STDs. I wouldn't do it in the damn alley (that is just prostitute crap). At least go to the damn restroom or his car. Don't let everyone know (that's hoeish)!! Do not expect it back.... if you want it though make it clear b4 hand. It is not as bad as having sex, but it is still some sort of sex. Crazy c0cK sucKeRz.
2007-01-29 09:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by ♥eLizAbEtH♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is the way I see things. Every time a person is with another, you are not only with that person but you are with all past partners of that person. Looking at it this way takes the mood out of a person and puts the mood where it belongs. This is to the person you want to spend years with not just a hour with.
2007-01-29 09:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you really have to be very cautious of who you give it 2. cuz theres some people out here that have diseases and everything, and you cant just pick up a guy and expect to give him the pleasure of doing it orally. but maybe if you get to know him for a while..get to know what person he's like.. and lol if hes clean..then i guess it wouldnt be so bad.
2007-01-29 09:28:23 · answer #11 · answered by Natalie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋