Why are people so critical of working parents?

Question

I don't undrestand why there is so much criticizum toward parents who have to work, my husband started a buisness two weeks before I was due to have my baby, I was devistated, as I had trusted him to care for us during the time I would be on maternity leave as he had a full time job that I had bugeted for. This still rips my heart out as I was forced to go back to work early. We structured our work as best we could so he spends three days in day care, I wanted him at home more than what he is in care. This is still an issue for me, I have to try not to dwell on this as it has nearly ended my marriage but I have a son to think about and I do love my husband very much. So when you people decide to judge working parents, think about in an ideal world us parents would be able to stay with our little ones and care for them as we'd like to. Our morgage is no more than $150,000.00, and we do not live extravagently. We work to stay off the dole and to give our children a better life!

Answer 1

I think that people are not blaming you- you are doing everything you can to keep your family sheltered and fed - its the parents that want the children SOOO bad- and then they are never home- they have plenty of money... but yet someone else is raising their children. I hope you stay married and try to work it out- you sound like a loving mom. :) Good luck with everything.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with working parents. Especially with the cost of things these days, you pretty much have to have two incomes and that is really sad. My husband and I don't have a house yet or any children, but we are saving and to afford a house we both have to work. I would like to stay home with my child when I do have children but with the cost of things I don't think that will be possible. We both have well paying jobs too, so I don't know how families who live on minimum wage do it. But my heart and prayers go out to them.

Answer 3

Because they don't understand it. They probably don't have kids or they get to stay at home. Don't worry what people think I had to do the same. I just laid off from my job. Actually I believe that it helps build esteem and it also shows you child that if you work hard for something that it will work out in the end.

Answer 4

I don't think people are lumping all working parents in one group. I think it is the parents who work to keep up with the Jone's that bothers people. When they sacrifice the well being of the child for a giant house, fancy car, and designer clothes, that's when people find it a negative. I am a parent and have worked in a daycare and I think a child is definitely better off with a loving parent. I also know nannies and, I say love trumps pay when considering who is best to be with a child. But then again, some children are probably better off with a nanny than their own parents.

Answer 5

I dont think there is anything wrong with a woman who works. Many woman have to. Life is expencive and living off one income is hard sometimes. I am a stay at home mom and many times i wish i had a part time job to have somrthing to do. I love my children and have been very blessed to be here with them, but there is nothing wrong with a woman working either. U love ur kids and want the best for them. wether it is something u choose to do or have to do. Just be sure to not get carried away with life of working that u forget kids need u physically as well. Its hard to jugle out sometimes but ur first priority is ur kids emotinal health not material. good luck and God Bless

Answer 6

not everyone is judgmental of working parents and i think most of those who are ...are ppl who work FULL time and just dump thier kids off at daycare or with a nanny. Your situation sounds different ...like a lot of moms who are FORCED TO go back to work. Understand that you arent being critized you are doing what you were forced too. Its hard to be able to live on one income today.......i know me and my hubby cant were having a baby in march/april and im barely going to get to take off 6 weeks. Then im getting a part time job babysitting or cleaning where i can take her with me. Did you consider doing something like that? Workin from home so you dont have to pay for daycare? Im sorry your hbby did that too you......that wasnt right at all. it was very selfish and i hope you told him so. But please dont put down the SAHM's either

Answer 7

Don't feel bad!!!!!! You are the mother of that child and you know best. Don't listen to everyone else when it comes to what to do and what not to do. Every parent is different. I chose to stay home with my child, but you know what? That was MY choice. If you want to work or have to work, well then you go do that. It does not make you a better or worse mother. As long as you love that baby to tears and provide it with what it needs. Then your a GREAT mother in my eyes.

Answer 8

Does she stay there? if so then no, she should not be paid. Why could you PAY a newborn to stay decrease than the roof you grant and eat the meals you grant? If she needs to rake enable her rake if she needs to mow enable her mow. If after wards she asks for money tell her she will gets a commission if she supplies the comparable centers to associates. yet she already has a roof over her head, nutrition in her abdomen, a place to sleep, water for bathing in etc. She does not choose for fee.

Answer 9

There is one thing that I have always said..." you can't raise kids just on love and time alone." YOU HAVE TO WORK!! It takes alot of money to raise kids these days and people need to understand that parents need money too. I would never judge you for what you are doing. Whoever is judging you should come back down to earth. Especially if they don't realize that a child's neccessities cost MONEY.

Answer 10

Nothing wrong with being a working parent, how else are you gonna support your self and your little one!