Do Children who are going to be adopted need female and male influences to make their own balance as an adult.

Question

I am not homophobic or saying a loving gay couple could not bring love to a child but the norm is that a woman is the mother and the man is the father, biologically. Nature is subtle in the sexes. There are things that a man will never understand about a woman and vice versa. This is not about Adam and Eve. This is about Nature. Just as much as we fight for the right of the planet we must fight for the right of nature. A woman is the mother and the man is the father.
If in doubt, it should be down to the child and what THEY want.

Answer 1

if we were in an idea world then yes.... however if we were in a an idea world would we need kids to be adopted???

a child need to be loved and not left to rot in a children's home or moved from foster home to foster home.

the statistic proves children who live in LA care are 9/10 times more likely to fail at school, fail to go to college or university. they often become socially excluded and on the scrap heap at a very early age... they are more likely to because substance misuser and they are more likely to become prostitutes.

if we look at society now and see how many children are being failed by the norm "Mother and Father" hence all the anti-social orders etc etc. Why shouldn't we allow gay couples full right...

love for a child, regardless of the sexuality, is love and i for one
would rather be raised by 2 gay men or 2 gay women being loved and cherished then "mother and father" who don't give a monkeys and are in the pub all the time...

just because they are the same sex does not mean they are paedophiles!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i for one would not have any problems of allow a gay couple to adopt or foster a child if they had passed all the same checks a heterosexual couple had passed

Answer 2

The best situation is a child who feels loved and wanted by someone who remains constant in their life be that a step mom a grandmother, a father, an uncle whatever.
The ideal situation is to have a adult of each sex that could be that person. I think same sex parenting you have two mothers or two fathers, the child will miss out on the experience of having the other sex parenting and as a role model.
Look at the statistics of single mothering, how many women today are unmarried with children and you will see that biological DNA does not determine if someone can parent or not.

Having a penis does not make you a father. Having periods does not make you maternal.

I do not think it should be about what the child wants today, it should be about what is best for the child in the long term and biological DNA may not play a factor.

Answer 3

Yes! You are correct there are just things that women and men have differently and children need to have love from both a mom and a dad. I have seen for myself in past families that if there is only one parent their children tend to be more like them. For example a boy and a girl child with one mother became very feminine and the boy ends up being a homosexual because he never had a father figure in his life. I'm not saying that this happens in all situations but it can happen often. Also a boy will grow up not knowing how to do basic "man" things. I am not saying this in all but have observed this in a lot of family relationships. Also a girl without a daddy will turn at a young age to seek for a relationship from a boy. Which we all know can lead to sexual immorality. I don't know what I would be like if I didn't have a mom and a dad. These things also happen in many families now. But, there really is a difference in life when you have just one parent or two. Hope this helped you!

Answer 4

Maybe (and i'm not saying definately!!), a mother and a father to bring up children is the ideal situation. But lets face it, these kids that are up for adoption are hardly in an ideal situation. If anyone, regardless of sexual preference or any other factor (well aside form a tendancy to abuse children etc) wants to make a childs life better by giving it a loving nurturing home, how can that be a bad thing?!
Your argument could also be said about one parent families and i know many people who have been brought up in this situation to become happy, confident and successful adults.
surely all that is important is that the child in question is loved, supported, provided for and brought up to respect others as well as themselves.

Answer 5

What ALL children need is a warm, loving, supportive home with discipline, consistencey and patience. The sexual orientation of those in the home doesn't matter. Very good friends of mine are a gay couple and they have adopted not one but THREE special needs children. Two are both autistic with ADHD one is autistic with adhd as well as manic depressive tendencies. They are two girls the oldest, who is the autistic/adhd/manic, and the youngest. The middle child is a boy. The oldest has been a part of this family for almost 15 years they youngest has been a part of it for 5 years. According to their doctors all three of these children have made major strides an have come FURTHER than their counterparts who were raised in homes with both male and female parents. The children have both male and female role modles because their parents have an array of friends from both sexes. Being gay doesn't mean you don't have friends from both sexes...it doesn't mean you are isolated from the rest of the world, it simply means you have a different sexual preference than hetros.
Frankly I think that if you asked ANY child they would tell you that they would prefer to be brought up in a home that is loving and supprotive with discipline, consitency and patience as opposed to a family with just a man for father and a woman for mother. As that type of "family" comes with no guarantees either.

Answer 6

What happens to those with single parents say a widow or widower?

Simple...

Extended family of family and friends of the family who amongst them should have the male and female influences.

Even where there are two parents... Kids still need someone not mum and dad to ask stuff they maybe embarrased about with parents.

And are you going to ask a baby? what is it? to ga s for use one go for no?



As for posters above...

No just as you have two gay parents or a single mother does not turn you gay...

Thats total hose poop.

I have had mates with single mums and not as got pregnant as a teenager and wanted a free house nonsence.

The boys were perfectly bloke and did better pulling girls then some of us with both parents.

One lucky git has had 3 somes with two girls aso thats not bad. Dude also has a successful career with others with both parents got nowhere.

So that Im afriad is religous homophobic scaremongering disguised as a rational argument.

Likewise these fears of being weird and stuff...

Hows this for a thought... The only ones who would bully the kid are the ones against this thing... Ie the relgious nuts.

There are plenty of kids who have been around gay guys and understand gay simply means a guy has boyfriends instead of girlfriends.

Kids actually if not kept in the dark dont have these sex hangups and fears grown ups project onto them. Its the same as saying if kids learn about sex they will go loopy.


Well plenty of kids grow up on farms, knowing all about sex with no hangups.

And most get a load of knowledge from older siblings.


This gay thing is no different.


The only hastle is off the anti gay realious morality crowd who are just bullies anyway.

And kids can be brought up not to take crap from anyone.


In fact many kids would wonder what all the fuss was about.

As for
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Also a girl without a daddy will turn at a young age to seek for a relationship from a boy. Which we all know can lead to sexual immorality.'


No thats called affection not immorality.

Sexual immorality is bullying and being mean ie raping people.

Looking to be close with people is not immoral, neither is being gay

Answer 7

You come from the assumption that men and women are different....and don't quote nature...that kind of talk is nurtured. A child needs a loving home! Nothing more. And there are so many children who need homes and so many families (with mother and father) who mistreat their children that this kind of talk is inappropriate....
And yes you are being homophobic and sexist......well done!

Answer 8

How many chilren today have 2 parents at all though? let alone one of each sex?
with the current trend for men to have children, dump them and go off to have more and do the same many children are raised by just a mother...do these children grow up unbalanced then? I think not!
All a child needs is someoone who loves it and has its best interests at heart.

Answer 9

Children who get raised by same sex couple are subject to major psychological problems as they grow up, ranging from insecurities to resentments and deep confusions. Those kids are also more likely to engage in same sex relationships. They will accept same sex union as the norm rather than an aberration (which is exactly what it is). Ask yourself this: imagine how a child can cope with the fact that he or she has both parents of the same sex while everyone else has two normal parents? Where would a child get his or her father figure if both parents are women? How could a young boy learn to be a man if both parents are women? You could ask hundreds more of those questions that have only one answer; is it absolutely a crime to allow innocent children to be raised in such an atmosphere, which would be nothing but an onslaught of unbelievable proportions on the child's psyche.. This is just another way to spread this social anomaly

Answer 10

I would say Mum and Dad, Husband and Wife but things have changed and its better for a children to have one happy parent than two unhappy parents, well thats what i think any any. Im married with two boys and we are happy but i would never stay with my hubby for the children as i would not be fair as we both would be unhappy and it would rub off on the children. So i guess ideal world two parents man and women but one its better than no love at all.
Good luck