How can I convince him she is taking him for a ride?
She is always changing her mind saying she wants to be with him then she dont. He follows her around like a puppy and she just brushes him off every time. I have tried telling him this does anyone have another method that might work?
Thanks
2007-01-29 09:12:10 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can't do anything about it. he has to learn for himself. it'll only make you look jealous.
2007-01-29 09:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Justina 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately sometimes people need to find out the hard way. I know he is your friend and you do not like the way he is being treated right now, but the main problem lies in the fact that he needs to not like how he is being treated. If he cannot see that this relationship is bad for him now, then give it some time. Love is deaf as well as blind and unfortunately for some, it takes a big fat smack of horrible to wake them up from their love crazed fantasy. All will work out in time, whether he realizes it now or later. The only thing you can do as a friend that cares is be there for him, and when that big horrible smack finally hits him in the face, just be there with the steak in hand to counteract the swelling k?
2007-01-29 09:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by LawlietLover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard, but you may need to talk to her about this. Just tell her straight up that you don't like how she is treating your friend, If she ignores you, confront him again. When guys are in love with girls they will stay with them and be played by them until they can't take it anymore. My best friend had a girlfriend for 2 years and she had cheated on him about 8 times during that 2 year period, it ruined our friendship in a way, i kept telling him that she was going to continue to hurt him and he just wouldn't hear it. Guys like that are so drawn into the girls that any bad comment made about them goes in one ear and out the other. The only thing you can do is try and talk to him, if it doesnt work he will eventually learn the hardway that you were right.
2007-01-29 09:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by beth3988 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him learn on his own honey. I'd think you may want to take a short break from the friendship ... maybe not even a break but just distance yourself from his relationship with the other girl. It's just going to piss you off more and more then you'll have to deal with the girlfriend thinking you like him and yada yada yada. He's not gonna listen to you ... maybe just explain to him that if he's gonna be with this girl, that's cool with you, but you don't want to hear the drama everytime she changes her prissy mind. If he can't understand that - which he probably wont - then you two may need a short break for him to understand. But when she dumps him for good ... he'll be back! Good Luck to you and your friend ... hope he realizes no one deserves to be treated like crap!
2007-01-29 09:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There aint really anything you can do right now without being shot, the messager always gets shot. But what you can do is stand back and be a good friend to him support him, be there in the end when it goes wrong and never say i told you so, just be there for him cause right now he really likes her and he is not ready to listen to anything that puts her down, a friend is there til the end.
2007-01-29 09:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by innocentkitty2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What, like aversion therapy, with electric shocks? No!
You can't convince him. Some people just crave the bad treatment. He'll either grow healthier and move on, or be stuck with her for a long time. All you can do is keep telling him she's bad news and hope it sinks in.
2007-01-29 09:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when blind folded by LOVE u dont want to hear anything negative things concerning ur relationship. U dont want 2 c the bad things of it that's how relationships are built and U U if u try anything to come between that g/f the man might hate u for good... better keep it quiet... he wil have to learn the hard way. that's how everyone learns after all
2007-02-01 20:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is hard to say but i am going to.
The best thing is to be quiet and be there for him and help pick up the pieces.
If he ask tell him the truth.
Attacking her will only make him defend her love is blind death and DUM ~
He makes you looke jeolous. When he gets a belly ful he will dump her.
We all can look back and kick ourselves for that same thing,
I have a prince now. But i kissed a frog or to in the process.
Buy him this book and you read it to Loving smart by Dr. phil! God bless
2007-01-29 09:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by tennessee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say (and I wouldn't know- I am a woman) that men tend to appreciate being treated mean.
That is to say that men tend to prefer women who do NOT run after them and make them feel "trapped", right?
So- a girl who acts as though she is the one to be chased tends to make the lad feel that he needs her more.
Which is a sad fact...
As for her changing her mind- is that really as much of a problem for him as you feel it might be? I mean, does he complain bitterly about that? Is he unhappy with her?
Telling someone that the person they adore is not worthy of their adoration is making the person who is doing the adoring look bad.
Rather- keep your counsel (you have tried) and be aware- one day you may need to prove your friendship and be there for him. And then again- maybe it will work out for him. He may tire of her elusiveness or they work it out and she stops...
Here is hoping!
2007-01-29 09:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend is extremely aware of the way in which his girlfriend is treating him,because he is feeling the pain.
He doesnt need to be told to leave her,in fact what he needs is a desire to ask for help.
This behaviour is the result of unfinished business, and it can only be resolved when your friend has the desire to want to change it.
I must say that for me it can be frustrating watching a friend stay in an abusive relationship,I can go from feeling angry,and helpless,but I have learned not to pick up that what is not happening to me.
your friend sounds to me as though he is suffering from co-dependancy,and there are self help meetings they are called c.o.d.a.
2007-01-29 09:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same realtionship weeks back. I was with a Hundurain girl and i knew that she was doing to me as she is doing to your friend.
Truly, he has to learn the hard way, the mind sometimes gets addictied to a love one and it is hard to let go. I recommend to try other ways, if that doesn't work...just let him live and learn. This is one of those One Way problems...
2007-01-29 09:16:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋