im in a serious relationship and have been thinking about IT recently but ive been told it hurts and that your first time is always rubbish help?!!x
2007-01-29 09:11:33 · 18 answers · asked by lil Miss Irish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
really how bad im scared now?!
2007-01-29 09:16:28 · update #1
you asked my age im 16!it bleeds too will the guy mind?
2007-01-29 09:18:23 · update #2
It does hurt the first time because your vagina has a small piece of skin, called the hymen, that may stretch or tear during your first act of intercourse. You may even bleed a little. This is completely normal. Depending on the person, it could be sore the next few times you do it as well. It is nothing to be afraid of. Just ask your mate to be slow and sensitive to your needs.
2007-01-29 09:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by JustTalking 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first: if you are sooo afraid of doing it, WHY are you doing it?! Don't you think it's bad to do anything that freaks you out this much?
I believe it hurts, although I never experienced that. And it definetely bleeds, but the guy you're with should know you're a virgin if you're in a serioue relationship and shouldn't mind-it's not like you can control it! So, just relax, think well about it and do you really want to do it-DON'T BE PUSHED AROUND! It's your body after all.
2007-01-29 17:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer your question, because your first time may or may not hurt.
The reason why the first time is often rubbish is because people do it with someone who they don't love or who doesn't love them, although he/she may say so.
You cannot take responsibility for how other people act. If you love him and feel that you have made your choice to have sex with him ON YOUR OWN, then go for it.
I do not know your age, but it might be an interesting fact that I was 24 when I lost my virginity. And I am not ugly. There is no need to rush things.
Best wishes.
2007-01-29 17:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kerosa S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask yourself a more important question... like am I ready for a pregnancy? or a disease? is this serious relationship one that will last??? You are taking on a big responsible thing, and it's not about your first time only, this will change you... You only get one first time and believe me... men value that, especially when it's the woman they are going to marry, even thought they don't say it.
So just think about it, don't do anything to please your boyfriend, and to answer your question, yeah it hurts, but that pain will go away eventually, how you may feel emotionally if you weren't ready... won't.
2007-01-29 17:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by C a R L i T a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, it hurts like hell and not just the first time. Some people it hurts the first several times. If you are scared maybe you should hold off until you are older and be sure you have the proper protection you need and know how to use it correctly.
2007-01-29 17:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rubbish?? Well the first time may hurt... depending how tight you are. Your hymen will tear (this is the painful part) and may bleed. 1st time is not as good as the rest.
2007-01-29 17:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by ♥eLizAbEtH♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does feel pretty uncomfortable, but it also depends on how old you are.. the younger you are the more it will hurt because your body isn't done developing. Whatever you do, be safe and make sure he doesn't do it very hard
2007-01-29 17:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry skittles! Just tell your man to be gentle. Let him go down on you and make it nice and wet. ALso, ask him to use lots of lube. If his schlong is too big tell him not to push all of it inside you. Just relax and enjoy the ride.
2007-01-29 17:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will always hurt the 1st time , thats it,but if ur really ready let him know to be gentle and drink a little b4 to numb the pain
2007-01-29 17:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by cookiesssssssssss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 14 and i heard tht u bleed the 1st time
2007-01-29 17:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋