ok.so.here's the problem.there's this girl in my college who has a huge crush on me. last term she came and told me how she felt abt me,plus she asked me if i felt the same way abt her.(she was sweet,quite pretty & a really nice person).i would have yes.but i wasn't looking for a relationship then,plus the fact i was still getting over another girl.i told her that & i also told her that we could still be friends.
now this term,she doesn't even talk to me as she used to before,though i know for a fact that she doesn't have any hard feelings on me(she told me she understands everything & that she's ok with it).we don't meet much since we don't take any classes together.(just during break & while passing through the hall)in the past,she used to sometimes come upto me,but not now.by what my friends have told me(she's even made a card for my b'day though i know for a fact that she's not planning anything special with me in mind for valentine's day)
i'm confused.why's she acting like this?
2007-01-29 09:08:02 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i told her know in a really nice way,& she wasn't upset by that...
2007-01-29 09:14:05 · update #1
i takes a HELL of a lot for a woman to ask a guy out. If we get rejected, its is very very embarassing for a woman.
You rejected her. Whether you had valid reasons or not, its still embarassing. In addition its possible that she thinks that the reason you gave her was an excuse to let her down gently.
if i asked a man out and he told me he wasnt ready for a r'ship, I would assume he just wasnt interested. And she probaly feels patronised by the suggestion that you two could be friends. To be honest I would make myself scarce too! She KNOWS you could be friends! But she doesnt want to be just your friend, otherwise she wouldnt have asked you out.
Its not your fault, you didnt do anything wrong, but she cant help her feelings either.
2007-01-30 21:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just feels embarrassed that she revealed her feelings to you and you didnt reciprocate thats all - she has no hard feelings because she obviously still likes you - she will communicate with you in any way that she can cos she still lives in hope that one day you will like her in the same way that she likes you - i know this cos i had the same problem with the guy i now live with - he was "reeling" from a broken relationship but in the end I just thought I would just stay friendly but let him make up his own mind - it takes patience and maturity - she is a clever girl !
2007-01-29 17:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by legalgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you dissed!!! Or what, was she supposed to hold her breath until you came around???? It took a lot of courage from her part to tell you what she felt for you and you rejected her.
Any rejection hurts, no matter how polite it is. So since you blew it, then now is time for you to do yoru homework.
Now it's YOUR turn to pursue her,... go ahead and ask her out on a date, if she doesn't have any hard feelings for you then this shouldnt be a problem.
Good luck
2007-01-29 17:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She SAID she was cool & she had no hard feelings, but put yourself in her shoes. She put her heart out there, as hard as that is. She had a HUGE crush on you. Then she got crushed. You probably bruised her ego (yeah we got those too). If you got over your ex-girlfriend, did she know it? Chances are you need to spill YOUR heart out to her now, because she's probably under the assumption that things between you two are the same~ Just Friends.
2007-01-29 17:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by chevy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably hurt that you turned her down. Some women, even if they say they understand, deep down, they don't and can hold a grude for a little while. Anyways, she might think that if she talks to you, you may think she's still interested so it'll be safer to keep her distance...avoidance, you know? If you want to be friends with her and vice versa, give her time, she'll come around.
2007-01-29 17:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by mauinei34 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might have got over u by now... But maybe shes playin hard 2 get... She took her time 2 tell u how she was feelin now go tell her everything that u jus told us... Dont take 2 long 2 ask her cause time is flyin by & shes slowly movin on!
2007-01-29 17:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because you turned her down once,maybe she thinks you might hurt her.she put herself out there by asking in the first place.Maybe she's just playing hard to get and she''ll come around,if she really liked you before,chances are she still feels the same.
2007-01-29 17:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by 8th wonder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably because she's slowly waiting for you to break the ice and ask her out, she wants you to know that she still likes you, but at that same time is giving you your space and time to think things over, don't just go up to her and ask her out, ask her on a date first, to the movies or out to eat, preferably out to eat because you can talk more.
2007-01-29 17:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by Cutie09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well theres a few reasons...she may feel a little bit hurt, but she just doesnt want 2 admit it so she told u she was ok...secondly, u might just B used 2 her always comin up 2 u && stuff so this is what it feels like 2 have just a regular old girl friend.
2007-01-29 17:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK ,here is the deal , just because she said she doesnt have any hard feelings , doesnt mean she doesnt .She has retreated into a shell because she feels hurt and she probably doesnt feel like she can cope with all the sadness right now .
Sounds like a nice girl after making you the card and all but give her some space or just basically sit her down and tell her wat u feel .i dont know whether you like her or love her but follow your heart .
2007-01-29 17:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋