I want to know more..?

Question

My girlfriend and I are very much in love with one another, however recently our relationship has became an open one, not so that we can sleep around with other people, she is not like that at all.. she just wants to know what it is like to date other people before being tied down. I love her very much and I know she love me just as much too.. she's talk to me about her real feelings deep inside of her, thing she never tell anyone else..

What I want to know more about is, her condition, she has bi polar so there are sometimes where she has even said herself she is not the person she wants to be, she will at times go from sweet to me, to very mean, hurtful and become very annoyed with me when I am around her. She's told me a few time before, when we get into fights just remember I do not hate you. Sometime it just really hard to rememeber when she says she cannot stand me or says she does not want me, but then later act sweet again, I just want to know more about this so I can cope

And really be there for her, even in the hard times.. I know a lot of people say be in relationship with a bi polar is really rough, however I want to be able to handle it, and I am not type of guy to back out of situation just because the road will be tough at times.

I agreed it would be OK for an open relationship, we both agree one day we'd make it official again, I know we love one another enough to respect eachother's current feeling..

Answer 1

Research the disease and find out more about it, knowing what she is going through will help you gain a better understanding of what she is doing/saying/suffering. Talk to her family members and discuss what things might trigger, worsen, or help her condition. Make sure she is getting the best treatment possible, and help her regulate her medication and therapy.

Ask her, while she is in a "good" phase, to write you a short letter about how much she loves you. Carry that letter in your wallet, so whenever she starts acting mean and you feel sad, you can pull it out and re-read her true feelings for you. This will help you cope through the bad times. You're very brave and patient to be willing to cope with such a tough condition, best of luck to you both.

Answer 2

Not trying to offend but bi polar people are very difficult to have a relationship with. The weirdest thing about this is not only is she mean to you sometimes but now she wants to have an "open" relationship to date other men. Are you really ok with all of this abuse? Bi Polar is a disorder but it is not a cover up for someone mistreating someone badly in all aspects. You should really take a good look at this relationship and think if this is something your really willing to invest yourself in.