Since my wedding is really close to Christmas (Dec 22/2007) and it might be a hard-to-attend-date for many people, I would like to get an approximation of the number of people that would be attending. I'll be sending out Save the Date cards very soon and I'll be sinding invitatons later...so my question is....should I ask people to do like a tentative RSVP on the save the date cards just to have a ballpark figure of how many guests will be attending? Is this usually done? Or should I just go ahead and wait for them to RSVP when I send out the real invitations?
2007-01-29 08:51:40 · 15 answers · asked by bbchichita 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A "Save the date" card is just that. It's a card to let them know you will be having an event on a particular date and you would like them to keep their schedules open.
Since you're getting married so close to Christmas, and travel during the holidays can be quite pricy, it would be wise to send out the cards ASAP.
It would be a good idea to reserve a block of rooms at a moderately priced hotel near the wedding venue for guest to take advantage of if they'd like. You may also want to give them the names and phone numbers of some other local hotels in varying price ranges. This information can be included on a seperate slip of paper in the envelop with the Save the Date card.
You should wait to request RSVPs until the actual invitation is sent. If I were you, I'd send the invitations out 8-10 weeks (meanding early to mid Oct) before the wedding to give people ample time to respond.
2007-01-29 19:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Just Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not request an RSVP on a save the date notice. The whole concept of those is to simply let people know the actual date and that they will be on the wedding list. Perhaps what you could do if you're concerned about the number of people coming send out your actual invitation a little earlier then normal… Seeing you are dealing with the Christmas holidays this could also be used as an early reminder for some do loose and forget about the save the date notices. And give the guest a little more notice so they can make the plans they need to make. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-30 14:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by Karen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
A save the date does not require an RSVP and does not make the invitee commit to a decision about attending.
If you ask them to RSVP, then it becomes an actual invitation.
A save the date will let people know the date in advance so they can arrange for time off work and so they can make their holiday plans around your wedding. In effect, it will probably make more people available for your wedding day.
Some people might verbally tell you they cannot attend when they receive the save the date, so that can at least give you a rough number. But you really shouldn't ask for the info that early. Also, even if they tell you that, you still need to send an actual invitation to everyone you sent a save the date to.
2007-01-29 14:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until you send the invitations to get the RSVP. You have to think that people will always want to be at your wedding and most of them will say yes...but as time goes on, things come up and unfortunately, your 'estimate' is thrown off by a huge chunk. You don't need to have an actual amount until 3 days before the wedding. The facility or catering person should have told you this. Put a cap on how many people you are inviting and start there. I have a cap of 200. That means there will not be any more than that many people. If 150 RSVP that they are attending, then that is the number that goes to your caterer or wedding planner. It is most certainly pre mature to ask people to tell you if they are coming ot not....especially if it 10-11 months down the road. CONGRATS!
2007-01-29 10:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-31 01:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by angerina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should not ask for an RSVP on a save-the-date, because you are asking them to save the date. If you want a rough number, get in touch with people in person or by phone and ask.
2007-01-29 11:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by jaye 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Typically they estimate 30% of guests invited wont make it to the wedding, during a holiday you can bump that number up to around 40%. I would assume most of the people that allready have plans would let you knwo that after receiving the save the date card, an RSVP may not be necesarry.
2007-01-31 12:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I know what you are talking about because everyone is traveling to my wedding as well. We are sending save the date magnets out Dec 1 for our June wedding, and then formal invitations 8 weeks prior to the wedding. We aren't putting RSVP info on the save the dates, but we do hope to hear back from people if they need to reserve a hotel room or need assistance with booking hotels in the area. So we created a wedding website with info on the area, area attractions, hotel information, etc. We will include on the website our email address in case they need to book a room in the block we are reserving. Don't worry about what is best practice as far as "proper etiquette" ... do what is practical in your circumstance and for everyone invited. Unless your family and friends are fussy and "prim and proper" people, then they won't care nor will they look up Miss Manner' guide to save the dates and RSVPs. Do what works so long as it isn't going to offend anyone.
2016-04-10 09:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have them RSVP on the save the date cards.It's good to find out how many are going to attend.That's what I did.
2007-01-29 08:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only problem you run into is will people actually return them. The majority of people I sent invites to have not RSVP'ed...because they don't "see why it's needed." And these are for the actual wedding invites. It's a good idea & it won't hurt, but keep in mind people may ignore it, not seeing why it's important. Not that I'm okay with that mindset, but it's someting you need to keep in mind.
2007-01-29 09:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by layla983 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋