i am currently 17 years old and i am going out with someone who is in the marines and he is 20 years old. we've been going out for month and he is going to get sent to iraq. i love himbut i don't if to break up with him or keep our relationship. i am scared that something might happen to him.
2007-01-29 08:48:14 · 23 answers · asked by zurita_caligirl_fbi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should not be in a committed relationship at your age. You should be dating around and exploring different kinds of men. You should break up with him so he will not be wondering what you are doing. You will most likely cheat on him if you stay with him. Break up, and it's best if both of you are free of commitment.
2007-01-29 08:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say be friends. You're quite young and if he ends up gone for a long while, you will find something else that catches your interest. Which is normal!! The marines was his choice, not yours. You deserve to have a relationship in which both parties are actually there. And seeing as how you've only been dating for a month ... there's no foundation yet so don't feel too horribly! Hope things work out for the best!
2007-01-29 08:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something might happen to any of us. Fear that something might happen to him is irrelevant to the choice you have to make.
Imagine that he was going away to Australia for school and you wouldn't see him for a long time. Would you break up with him or wait for him?
You have been together one month, admittedly not much time. You are quite young. You can wait for him or if you change your mind, break up with him later. You can break up now and remain lovely friends and see other guys, or not see other guys and concentrate on yourself and studies. There are so many possibilities. You can change your mind at any time.
Be at peace with yourself and your decision. There is no wrong or right choice.
2007-01-29 09:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, by the way you said the question it seems that you want to know how to get rid of him because you fear that he might get injured or die of injury. This is how it appears to me, your question got all screwed up near the end.
Most women, commonly, do worry for their loved ones when they go to a dangerous area or province, such as a war. The chances for your boyfriend dying is 1:50, hopefully he isn't the one. You should try to keep the realtionship as for the benefits, both finacally and love-wise. Your mind, as it renders in this situation, worries deeply for your man. When he will return with his regiment, your mind will feel with ease, love will pour throughout your body for the next short period sof time. Your realtionship should possibly grow when he comes back. Also, since he is in a Armed Unit you get Military Credit ;).
If you think you should break up with him though, through worry and low-possible conclusions, then i recommend you should. Worry eventually worsens throughout the days and can negatively affect your daily activities.
2007-01-29 08:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, break up with him. You're doing the man a favor. You've only been going out for a month, and it isn't fair for him to be thinking that a girl at home loves him. Because if you loved him, fear of something happening to him would not make you think of breaking up.
2007-01-29 08:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only been going out for a month. You are only 17!!!! If something happens to him in Iraq it is NOT your fault. Just explain to him that you are only 17 and be supportive as a friend.
2007-01-29 08:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im in ur same shoes girl.. my guy is a marine and hes in iraq right now. i think u should stay with the guy.. what they need the most is support, they need something to look forward to when they come back home.. i know anything can happen to him.. but wouldnt u feel even worse if u had broken up with him and something happened to him instead of being there with him through the whole thing? i know exactly what ur gonna be going through if u stay with him.. im always worried about him.. but i get so happy when i hear from him.. its worth it..
2007-01-29 08:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are unsure, have the decency to break up with this man before he goes overseas. He doesn't need an "on the fence" girlfriend back home who might change her mind while hes gone, or worse, cheat on him, break up with him because she found someone knew. if you can make the commitment and mean it, stay with him, otherwise, give him some respect and break it off now.
2007-01-29 08:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Burn to Shine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont break up with him just because he is being sent away. That may hurt you more than you'll ever know, and he may not want to go out with you again. I mean if you love him staying with him is worth the risk, dont let someone you love get away because you have a fear of losing them. Good luck!
2007-01-29 08:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know if you want to maintain a long distance relationship, then you probably don't. Of course you are scared that something might happen to him, he's going to war for crying out loud. But don't maintain a relationship out of guilt or something, let him go and live your life.
2007-01-29 08:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋