okay my boyfriend and i have been together for six years. ive been thinking about joining the army and mentioned it to him. he said it might be something he would want to do as well, but he said that we would need to get married first... i wouldnt mind. i mean, ive kinda waited for him to ask me, but now im scared that if we do get married and join the army we will never get to see each other and our marriage will fail... he says that its not like that. he says that we will be able to live together and stuff... i dont know and cant find anything on the net about it so i decided to ask yall. also, if you have a slight case of asthma can you still join? thanks for your help. id love to e-mail with someone who has been there and done that...thanks a bunch
2007-01-29 08:47:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Well, some military couples do get to live together/get stationed at the same base, but it is no guarantee. You have better chances if only one of you joins, and the other works as a civilain/government employee on whatever base you get sent to. Here is a link to a better web site for that kind of question. And asthma can keep you out of the military, you won't know for sure till you take the physical at MEPS.
https://forums.goarmy.com/forums/index.jspa
2007-01-29 08:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well My hubby is in the US Army!!! He loves it!! I was going to join to but I dont want to be deployed.... Im scared to go over seas:( But If you both join the Army I mean you can see each other but yu better start saving money now:( Cause more than likely your going to be stationed in different places... My friend is actually dating someone right now in the Army and she's in the Army and he's like 400 Miles and she talks about missin him so much!!! Its going to be hard for you both but if you think that you can make it then good luck... Deployments arent no joke.. You might not be able to make it in the Amry cause Of the Asthma:) I mean you can always go talk to a recruiter:) Well Good LUCK I hope you get the answers your lookin for:) If you need anything feel free to message me at proudarmywife68@yahoo.com......
2007-01-29 09:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Army Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As to married couples in the military: If you are in the same branch and your MOS is such that the base has billets for both, the Army will try to get you stationed on the same BASE, but not in the same command, necessarily. You most likely would not be in the same UNIT because of a thing like conflict of interest in case you wind up in the same chain of command. There is NO guarantee that you will be at the same base. For example, Ft. Story in Virginia Beach is about 45 miles away from Ft. Eustis up on the Peninsula. I had a couple working for me. They got married but didn't file their papers with personnel. The put n for orders and the guy got offered the USS Guam in Norfolk, VA, and the girl got offered GUAM (in the Pacific Ocean)That would be considered close enough. I told them to go register with personnel as being married (what they were doing was drawing TWO single BAQ, which was illegal). Then they resubmitted for orders and HE got a submarine repair ship in Pearl Harbor, HI and she got the Naval Supply Center in Pearl Harbor.
For the BEST UP TO DATE answer, call a recruiter.
As for the answer about a 'slight case of asthma, talk to the recruiter.
2007-01-29 09:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think asthma would disqualifes you. Secondly with the war going on you probably wouldn't be together. If not maybe I was married in the military. It took some doing to stay together when I reenlisted I was suppose to go th New Jersey and the sent him to Ft Carson CO, so they got me to change. dang if I knew I was going to divorce two years later I might of went to New Jersey. Opps then I would been discharged for being a single mom. Oh well.
2007-01-29 09:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by path2631 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were dual military (we got married while in the military) and I'd have to say.... I never saw him, between the hours I worked, the hours he worked, going off to field exercises, ranges, training missions, TDYs, and deployment, out of the three years we were married, I saw him a total of 14 months.
Being married in the military is tough. The divorse rate is extreemly high, from cheating, meeting someone else, or to just growing apart. The military doesn't have to assign you to the same base (no matter what the recruiter says). My NCOIC (my boss) was stationed at my base and his wife was stationed at another base about 2 hours and 45 minutes south of us. Talking about a long drive......
The military is not very supportive as far as marital rights go either. I lived the dual military lifestyle for 3 years and it is something I wouldn't recomend to any one. The military is not for families, they are really good at breaking them up.
My marriage and family was saved when I finished my military comittment to the Army.
2007-01-29 09:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by Krazee about my pets! 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Any type of asthma after about age 12 is an automatic disqualifier.
If you were married, and enlisted together, the army would make every effort to station you at the same base.
2007-01-29 09:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oooh, best you talk to a recruiter. Ultimately, Uncle Sam will place you wherever he needs you, regardless if you're married. And don't believe the recruiter is being truthful in all matters. Get everything in writing. Good luck to both of you.
2007-01-29 08:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sick Puppy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant join with asthma i was just disqualified for it. you will be stationed to the same base but different units. yuo can live together once your married
2007-01-29 08:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋