I met this guy about a year ago and we really hit it off,problem was,I had a boyfriend and he had a girlfirend. My boyfriend at the time found out we were talking and got really angry.we stopped talking after that(that was in May).In November I called him and he was VERY happy to hear from me, we both just got out of our relationships and started hanging out.Well,it got serious too quickly,we started hanging out everyday, we went away for the weekend together, but I could tell this was scaring him,so I backed off.He pulled me aside one day and told me how much he liked me and he wanted to be with me,but he was scared and I intimidated him. He started acting really weird and blew me off one day so I told him to stop calling me. That was on Friday,Jan 19.He called me on the next Tuesday,I didnt pick up,then he texted me saying "sorry".He called me again on Thursday,I didnt pick up. Then he called me again this last Saturday and i briefly spoke to him.What should i think of this?
2007-01-29 08:46:54 · 10 answers · asked by kimmy_717 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are both in our 20's. The reason I am ignoring his calls is because I don't want to get hurt again. I really care about him, but I can't tell if he feels the same way. He told me on Saturday he would call me again and he hasnt.
2007-01-29 08:58:06 · update #1
So, he obviously is really interested in you. It was just too much too soon. If you are still interested in him, keep talking to him and just take it slow.
2007-01-29 08:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Penya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either having second thoughts, is missing your company, or whatever he was trying to get with some other girl fell through.
Honestly, we don't know what he's thinking. We don't know how old both of you are, and we don't know him well enough to know how mature he is and what kind of relationship experience he has.
If you both just got out of a relationship and then rushed into one together (even if it wasn't planned), he may be a little gunshy of relationships.
At the very least, you should be mature enough to talk to him like an adult, and see what he wants. If he is willing to apologize, you should be willing to listen and accept it. That doesn't mean you have to date him again, but it should mean that you can be mature about it all.
2007-01-29 16:52:31 · answer #2 · answered by Garylian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was a connection and chemistry between the two of you, I think you should talk to the guy... make sure you both are on the same page and make boundaries... communication is key in any kind of relationship if it's going to work even in just friendship, without communication you really have no foundation. build a foundation first and then go from there, you don't have to rush into things. this sounds like you guys rushed into it and as quick as it began, it ended... first be sure that you weigh everything out, do you really like him, are you willing to put time and effort into the relationship, weather it friends or romantic... the decision in the end is yours, but whatever you do, don't lead him on, be honest and straight forward and GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-29 16:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably was intimidated by your strong feelings for him, and also acted stand-offish because he knew you'd always be there... but the second you started playing hard to get, he realized he didn't have you anymore and now he's freaking out. It's the classic guy move.. if you want him to stick around just keep playing hard to get, and then when you finally do hang with him, don't act so strongly..
2007-01-29 16:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, it sounds like he might be scared but or you sure he's not just chasing skirts around , just asking I do not mean to offend you or anyone . If he's scared maybe he's scared of his feelings for you or maybe he's scared of being tied down too just one person right now or maybe he doesn't want too just be on the rebound & feeling maybe like he does. Lot's of things this could mean you just need too talk to him & ask him what & where you should expect this relationship too go right now ?.
Take Care ,Best Wishes & Good Luck
May GOD Bless You & Yours
2007-01-29 16:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by sweettexasangel12001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think that it's normal. You both just got out of relationships. Give yourselves some time to chill out! Relax! Be single! Stop trying to force something to happen. When it's time for you to make that move with one another ... you'll know. Until then, enjoy his company and allow him to enjoy yours! Hope it all works out!
2007-01-29 16:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He just wants sex with you.
2. He knows you have a past of not being totally LOYAL to boyfriends (or you wouldn't have gotten close to HIM while you were dating another man)
3. Both
4. neither
2007-01-29 16:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probly thougt of it and realizes that he likes u and has gotten over his "fear"...talk to him see what he says
2007-01-29 16:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by Bloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him what's wrong why is he acting this way?
2007-01-29 16:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like him you should respect him and hear him out..
2007-01-29 16:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by Poptart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋