what chores to give to an eight year without pay? And what with allowance?

Question

My eight year old has a hard time doing what is asked and is not willing to help around the house. Sometimes there is difficulty listening to me. My eight year old is a female and is on Retalin.

Answer 1

room cleaning and cleaning up after herself should be with out pay and just expected... (to develop responsibilities for self) as far as with pay anything extra; sweeping the kitchen floor, helping with dishes, laundry, what ever else that your child didn't dirty but the family as a whole had a hand in dirtying.

Answer 2

without allowance is her room.


Ages 6 - 12

-Take care of pets
-Cook simple foods
-Help wash the car
-Vacuum, sweep and mop
-Clean the bathroom completely
-Rake leaves and shovel snow
-Use the washer and dryer
-Hang and fold laundry
-Take out the trash


giving her allowance will make her happier and when she wants to buy something she'll be happy to use her own money.

Be reasonable with the number of chores you assign. Small children shouldn’t be overburdened with chores and if the chore is too overwhelming, he will probably not do it at all. If you’ve ever told a small child to clean a completely destroyed play room, you know what I’m talking about. Think about how overwhelmed you feel when you see a huge mess, now think of how huge that mess looks to a small child. Make your chores small enough to accomplish. Don’t set your child up for defeat or the whole purpose of doing chores will be lost. Your child will feel good after completing a chore, but can feel inadequate and hopeless when presented with a seemingly impossible job.


As your child grows, you can begin to assign chores that really will help you around the house such as, dishes, garbage and laundry. These will be a great help to you and your child will know that he is contributing to the good of the family, a great ego booster!

Answer 3

I have an eight year old son, who right now is having a hard time with writing, but not with chores. What I do is give him simply chores, like make the bed or clean his cats litter. (Yes he cleans it) or maybe along the lines of help mommy fold clothes. At first he didn't want to, but instead of giving him money, I make a chart and each time he does something it earns him a star which gets him closer to a prize, and ever time he does something disapproving, I take the star away. Once there onto it you can slowly take the method away.

Answer 4

There are a lot of kids on Ritalin, some rightly, some not. The reason and severity of ADD would make a big difference in answering your question. I believe that it is important to establish basic chores such as keeping room clean,setting and up and clean up after meals.
There are a multitude of above and beyond chores that you could select for basis of allowance. Moore work = more allowance.
I commend you for your question. Too many parents don't even think about teaching their children that life is not a free ride.

Answer 5

I never paid my daughter an allowance. I don't believe in paying a child for my keeping a roof over their heads. My daughter's chores considted of cleaning up after herself. That meant if she was in the family room and playing a game or something she had to clean it up. She had to keep her room clean...if she didn't I used the shutting of the bedroom door method (I shut her bedroom door)She would help clean up after dinner. Why shouldn't she she partook of the family meal. She often assisted in preparing of the meals...again since she was partaking in the eating of the meal she should help to prepare it. By the time she was 8 my daughter was doing her own laundry. I did that which needed to be bleached though. She also ironed her own clothing. The only time she would receive "payment" for doing something was if it was something she did so on her own. Like deciding to do my and her father's laundry while I was at work so that I would have more time to spend with her. Then I might give her a few dollars or we'd do something "special".

Answer 6

My daughter doesn't get allowance for chores around the home. Chores are teaching her work ethic and how to be responsible. I
She does the dishes, vacuums a little bit, sweeps, cleans her room, and picks up the bathroom. I deep clean the bathroom.

She does get allowance for excellent behavoir at school and straight a's on her report card. Also for going above and beyond what is expected of her at home. Like I may ask her to unload the dish washer but if she then loads it and cleans off the cabinets she gets extra responsibility points.

She is 7.

Answer 7

Explain to her that everybody has responsibilities in a family. Everyone lives in the house so everyone has to help in cleaning it. It doesn't get dirty be itself. As a member of the family her contribution helps the whole family to work better together and to be happier. Everyone has chores to do and give her a list of what you expect. Taking out the garbage, or the recycling, making her bed, vacuuming the living room or sweeping the porch. They don't have to be big things but if they are important and noticeable, re: the garbage, her contribution will be noticeable to everyone and she will see the important of it. Also you'll notice and remember to praise her for her help around the house. Rewarding them with hugs and praise goes a long way to getting and keeping their interest.

Answer 8

I agree with the above poster. General cleanup and room tidying should be expected and not compensated.

My 8-year old son rounds up the trash each evening and is responsible for taking it outside to the can and replacing the liner in the kitchen. For that he receives $3 a week. He's pretty good at it and it only takes him a few minutes BUT it's a good responsibility to have.

Answer 9

Children with ADD pose some difficulty all on there own.
I would make sure she makes her bed. Tell she should do it every morning, put a picture beside her bed of someone making a bed to reinforce it.
Children with ADD also need to be told what you want them to do and then have them reply as to what order they are going to do it in. Don't give them more than 3 instructions at a time. Be patient.
Making their bed, taking the dishes into the kitchen, cleaning up after themselves doesn't need to be rewarded with pay, but, I have an eight year old son with ADHD and we give him $5.00 a week. $2.50 for him and $2.50 for his bank account (help save up for college.

Answer 10

I agree with daddy's girl...her room should be without pay...is she is sharing her room, at least her bed and her things. She could help out in other ways by helping you...first try to set an example...if you are cleaning the bathroom..have her help you my cleaning the sink, and dusting some items in the restroom...if you are washing dishes have her dry them, or clean something else in the kitchen i.e. the table. But make sure that you are consistent or else nothing is going to work. Maybe this is why she doesn't listen to you because you are not consistent.

Answer 11

I think chores should be chores. Kids shouldnt be paid for doing thier fair share around the house. What you can do is use a reward system for making sure she gets all her chores done on time. THe reward system could be things that are non-monatary. Like more tv time, computer time, a new book, things like that.
hope this helps.