I know I had to break with my boyfriend of 11mo. It was an emotionally abusive relationship. He was bad for me in many ways. We were good friends and lovers at times, which kept things a float. I remain strong in the decision it is best for me to move on. Now I am living alone for the first time, in the apt we got together 2mo ago (lived together 6mo). I am surrounded by stuff that is his or was once ours. Which I will be modifing soon. Last night was my first night there, stayed with my parents for a week prior till he left. We do not talk civil. We have debt together in which I am going to wash in order to avoid him.
I am having a hard time shutting my mind off with this situation. Although I know it is for the "best".... I can't sleep, I am eating everything, my mind is going "crazy"...
Any suggestions or ideas on coping mechanisms in order to move on from this situation in a healthy manner?
2007-01-29 08:41:47 · 13 answers · asked by LifeIsPassion 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
get counseling
you are not crazy, it is just a difficult time
2007-01-29 08:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by boyfromtoledo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you because I've been in a similar situation. You need to remember what your life was like BEFORE this guy came along. Get out there and DO something for yourself and have fun.
Do you have hobbies or interests? Then explore them and find something that makes you HAPPY again.
Honey, men come and go so you have to rely on yourself and be good to yourself first and foremost. Don't let any guy get you down. You are a strong beautiful woman. Now get out there and enjoy your life. Remember what you have to be thankful for and all the blessings in your life.
You are too good to let anyone drag you down for long. Stand up and be strong and proud of the person that you are. You are WOMAN-hear you roar!!!
You go girl...don't let anyone get you down. I wish you all the very very best! You need to start by getting your mind on other things and getting out of the house. Go enjoy life. Staying home and doing nothing keeps you dragged down and thinking of the past. You need to think about the FUTURE and all the great things you want to do with it!
Life is beautiful-go have some fun! ;)
2007-01-29 09:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by Starfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know what you're doing... getting his stuff out is a good start, and you might even want to move to another apartment if your lease is up anytime soon. You should try to be around your good friends more, hopefully they will give you support. Try doing things you enjoy in your spare time to keep your mind off of it. Sorry to say, but grieving takes time and it may be a while before you're completely over him.
2007-01-29 08:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by redrancherogirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Find a new one. Be selective and find someone of good character and quality. Soon you will forget about your old one and even wonder why you put up with the old one. Eliminate any vestiges of the old relationship. You've moved on, and have no need to wallow in the past.
2007-01-29 10:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by cap3382 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU CAN I WOULD MOVE AS SOON AS POSSIBLE SO YOU ARE NOT REMINDED OF HIM AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP CONSTANTLY.GET OUT AND GO SOMEWHERE NEW AND FRESH IT WILL HELP YOU FOCUS ON MORE IMPORTANT THINGS.AND IT WILL HELP YOU TO HELP YOURSELF.IT MAY SEEM LIKE THE END OF THE WORLD..BUT SOON ENOUGH YOU WILL GET OVER HIM.AND YOU KNOW YOU ARE DOING THE BEST THING FOR YOURSELF SO IT SHOULD BE A LITTLE EASIER.AND TRUST ME SOON ENOUGH YOU WILL BE GLAD YOU LEFT HIM.AND YOU WILL LOOK BACK AND WANDER WHY YOU LET HIM TREAT YOU LIKE THAT FOR SO LONG.IF YOU KEEP TELLING YOURSELF YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT,THAN YOU YOURSELF WILL START TO BELIEVE IT.START FEELING BETTER ABOUT YOURSELF AND KNOW YOU ARE IMPORTANT SO NEXT TIME YOU WONT LET ANYONE TREAT YOU LIKE THAT.IT STARTS WITH YOU AND YOUR SELF ESTEEM..THEY CANT TREAT YOU BAD IF YOU DONT LET EM..AND YOU ALREADY TOOK THE FIRST STEP..YOU WALKED AWAY.GOOD LUCK,HOPE YOU GET YOUR ANSWER
2007-01-29 09:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by sbautzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to think of other things, try things to do that would keep your mind off all your problems, like shopping or iceskating with a friend or even having dinner with relatives. and then after a while try dating again
2007-01-29 09:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by pink p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time is your friend.
Take it a day at a time... give yourself time to grieve, death of a relationship is hard.
Throw yourself into life... get his things out of your place NOW. Put away the pictures. Don't torture yourself with "could have been".
Good luck.
2007-01-29 08:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy, go to the gym, movies, see friends. Don't rush it and don't look back. In a few months you will be back to normal.
2007-01-29 08:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by jeffpsd 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is really tough. Hmm...Well you could try meeting new guys, I don't know if that'd help though. Try occupying yourself with different activites.
2007-01-29 08:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by Vexi_Lexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time finding yourself.
2007-01-29 08:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by retrodragonfly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋