ok, so me and my best friend dated over the summer and it was bad...well i was bad! I really treated him poorly, and i'm not sure why. I think i was just scared that something great might actually work out for me...i tend to not have that happen! Anyways, last week i asked him for a second chance some day and he said no! So i was like, ok, move on, we're still friends... Then he shows up on sunday morning at 3am (he lives an hour away by the way) and tells me he loves me and will give me a second chance...only it was a now or never situation. he wanted my decision right then, but I said i dont even have time to be a good gf cuze i work 2 jobs, i'm in school, play basketball, and coach basketball...i have no time for a relationship (i didnt think it was fair to him cuze he deserves better). So am I being a complete idiot, cuze for some reason i just didn't think it was the right idea! HELP!
2007-01-29 08:35:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No! You are brilliant! You spoke what was on your heart! Nothing should be able to overpower that. Explain to him that you want to do this thing but you want to give him what he deserves. Time and love and companionship. All of which you can't provide him with right now. If he can't understand that you were speaking of the future, then he should probably move on to someone who will want to do those things for him immediately. Stop doubting yourself! You did the right thing! Nothing would be worse than hooking back up with him and then you end up treating him like crap! That would be bad for everyone! Good Luck honey! Hope your prince understands!
2007-01-29 08:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Seems like you aren't at that point in your life that you know what you want from a relationship and a man. You asked for a second chance, he gave it albeit later and you buckled. You have doubts, then don't date him. But, it sound like you really don't know what you want. I would try focusing on your jobs and activities instead, and focus on what you are really wanting. Get to know yourself. When the time is right and you are in the right state of mind it will happen, generally, when you least expect it. I would let go any thoughts of dating this guy again.
2007-01-29 08:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Groovy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always say no to an ultimatum. You did the right thing. It was wrong for him to ask you for an answer right away. You are an idiot for treating him like sh*it though. If you have something good, try to make it work. Don't push people away. Women are really screwed up in the head and they tend to go for guys that treat them the worst. Don't be one of them. Break the cycle.
2007-01-29 08:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 04:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were the first to ask for a second chance, and now your backing out? you don't want this guy as a boyfriend, you want him as a puppet, someone you can get your jollies with and send him home......he is not a puppy, you don't just feed him and then forget his water dish............you are an idiot.........and if i were him, i run my fat butt so far away from you, that the only thing i could see was sunshine...........you would be a black cloud over him....you treated him bad once....you will do it again.....go live with a plant, say a cactus, at least you wont have the responsibility of caring
2007-01-29 08:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by phishsports 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...yeah ur an idiot! isnt there something u can sacrifice for this guy??? if he drove an hr just to tell u how much he loves u and he wants to give u a second chance after u treated him wrong, doesnt that tell u anything???! not too many guys will do that for a girl especially after they got dissed! u gotta give this guy a chance, it sounds like hes the one for u, but ur just not letting him be in ur life. ur being kinda selfish by only caring bout urself. thats my opinion.
2007-01-29 08:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by oc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your intuition. Do you really even like him? Is it a situation where you only want him when he doesn't want you? Why did you ask him for a second chance and then when he gave it to you, refuse it? It sounds like you are seriously confused and you need to figure out what you want. Don't play with his head, its not fair. Be honest.
2007-01-29 08:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by NIcole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just go to him and tell him that u messed up and u do want to date him(if thats what u want). And if it isn't then u could think of it as this...if he really loved u then he wouldnt have put u in the situation to tell him yes or no...right then and there!!...He would have let u tell him when u wanted to...and when u have thought it out more clearly.Good luck though!!
2007-01-29 08:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by brit_09 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like you said - "He deserves better". Let him go out and get it, you treated him like crap the first time around - he asks for another chance and you say you don't have time for him. Sounds like it's getting off to a bad start already.
2007-01-29 08:41:27 · answer #9 · answered by bill m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, you asked for it, and I assume you want an honest answer. You are an idiot.
Do you want a second opinion? Your wannabe boyfriend is an idiot too.
2007-01-29 08:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋