If you are adopted have you looked for your birth parents? If you have found them, what was their reaction?

Question

I am adopted, but have no desire to look for my birth parents. My sister who is adopted from a different family has looked for hers and I am not sure if she ever found them. I would like to find out from different adopted individuals what their success/non-success stories are.

Answer 1

I too was adopted. When I was younger, before I had medical problems and my daughter, I never wanted to find my birth parents. I figured my parents were the people who raised me.
Almost 7 years ago, my mother died. (my father passed away 17 years ago) My brother and I were going through her papers and we came across our adoption records. On one of the papers from the court to my parents lawyer, was a question asking for the birth mothers name. On that paper, it was written.
I debated for a while and finally decided to try and find her. I put an ad in the local paper and got a phone call that night. It was from a cousin who lived about 30 minutes away. So we talked for a while, but she wasnt much help. The next day I got a call from one of my birth mothers step daughters. They called and wanted to meet me. None of them knew about me and they were all curious. My birth mother never even told her husband that she had given up a baby. Well it ended up, we went to meet her that day. They had told her when she had me that I would be sent downstate, but I ended up growing up in a town just 30 minutes away. When I met her, I found out that she had given up more than one baby, and kept two boys, one older than me and one younger. She said at that time, she was still living with her parents and that it was easier to keep boys because they could work and make a living.
I hate met these people and found out I have one natural brother, one half brother, and one half sister, 5 step brothers and sisters.
I still go see them and we get together on birthdays and stuff, but most of the family think that I am just around to get something from her. I talk to my birth mother quite often. I most talk to my younger half sister. She was the only one who really took to me. I am even her sons god mother.
It wasnt what I expected. You see these family reunions where everyone cries and hugs each other, but mine was nothing like that.
I love these people, but I am glad she gave me up. I had a much better life where I was than I would have with them. I also found out that the information they put about my father was totally a lie.
All my life growing up, I had people ask me if I was native American, and according to my records, I wasnt. Come to find out, I am like 75% Native. I also found out a lot of medical information too.
Like I said before, I love them, but I am glad I was given up.

Answer 2

I was adopted, and I too have no desire to meet to my birth parents. Since I have kids, I would like medical history only. From my birth Mother, I have 3 sisters. I found and met her. She was very different from me. She was into drugs and other stuff. I told that I was glad that I got to met her and glad that she was living the life that she wished and we parted ways. She did tell me though that she wanted to met her birth Mom, that her life would be better if she knew her birth Mom. I don't know if she ever found her.

Answer 3

I was adopted. I have never tried to look for my birth parents. I have always been curious about what they looked like and if they were from Irish descent or whatever, but I have been afraid to find out bad things. So I have just left well enough alone.

Answer 4

Yes and no...
I would like to know them
but your other parents took care of you
remeber you can be family with anyone

Answer 5

Try finding them out first. You will be surprised the reaction you will get.

Answer 6

i found my biological mother16 years ago. it was the best experience that i ever had. she was happy too. and found out i have 10 other siblings besides myself.