I want to ask my girl friend to marry me, but I want to ask her parents. My Gf has been married before, but I still feel I should ask for their blessing? Should I ask them? How should I do it?
2007-01-29 08:08:36 · 19 answers · asked by whathappenedamber 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that is a really sweet idea. I don't think there is a specific way to ask that question. Just be honest with your feelings and her parents will appriciate how genuine you are. Best wishes!
2007-01-29 08:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by Emily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Engagement Blessing
2016-11-10 20:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her father if you want to be traditional, you dont need the moms permission.
There are many ways to ask, just be sure you are alone and your girlfriend especially isnt present. It should be a private moment between you and her dad. After all he will be giving you his most precious belonging, you want him to know you are sincere about taking good care of her, not just doing some grand show for everyone. My husband was in college when he asked my dad so he asked on the phone, my BIL asked my dad when they were out on the golf course. Its not so much your location as what you say. And if you are honest and again, sincere it will be a great moment to start your relationship off with this man. You have given him respect so he will be more than likely to give it back to you.
2007-01-29 08:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YESS!!!!!! You HAVE to!!!! My Fiance called my dad and asked to take him out to dinner. They ended up having coffee at my dads house and talked for about an hour. At the end of the day, it really proved to my parents how much he truly cared about me and that he was a man with character. Since then my parents have both told me that they could not have chosen someone better for me (which obviously has to do with other things besides asking for their blessing... but that helped too) Anyway, asking the parents is a must.
2007-01-29 08:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by DanielleJane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is sweet that you would even think about doing that and that you not only love her that much, but would like to let the parents know you respect them. Just let them know how much you appreciate them raising their daughter to be such a wonderful loving person and that you would like nothing more than to have their blessing as you ask her for her hand in marriage. Boy! I know LOTS of ladies who would just melt after that! And I know parents who would enjoy hearing how much you love their daughter before asking her to marry you!
2007-01-29 08:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Sweetmusic ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww!!! that's such a sweet idea!! i wish my fiance would ask my parents...i tried explaining to him, but it didn't work to well. i think you should do this, it will make telling them you're getting married that muich eassier. good luck to you!! i don't know how you should ask them........perhaps say that you love their daughter very much, and you want to be with her for the rest of your life, and some other mushythings like that. ask them if they would bless your engagement, or something like that. i can't be of much help, since i've never asked anyone... write down your feelings, and figure out a way to word it into a question for her parents.. good luck!!!
2007-01-29 12:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally up to you. Some people feel it's old-fashioned and unnecessary - but to others, it's a nice symbolic gesture. Do what you feel your g/f would find appropriate. I personally would want my fiancé to ask me first, and then, when we had it figured out, it would be ok if he wanted to (symbolically) ask my parents. But not the other way around.
How to do it? Your guess is as good as mine. I suppose, you could call them up and ask if you could have an hour of their time, then show up at their place (maybe bring flowers and a bottle of champagne), and ask for their daughter's hand in marriage.
2007-01-29 08:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really nice guy. I don't think that many men would even think to ask for their girlfriend's parent's blessing on their proposal. It's neat that you want to do this. I'd say just go for it.
2007-01-29 08:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by lynda_is 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask them. Just be honest. Tell them you love her and want to marry her. And that you realize that her past might make them more hesitant for her to be married again. If you tell them you want their blessing before asking her, they'll know you respect them. And how could they say no? :)
2007-01-29 08:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
YES! Definitely do it, that is like ultimate respect for them and for her. Awesome idea and very commendable on your part! You might say something along the lines of how much you love and care for their daughter, and want to spend your life with her. Then say you would like to ask their blessing for her hand in marriage ( :
2007-01-29 08:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by happily married ( : 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋