My boyfriend wants me to try it and he's smart enough to know NOT to touch her but he..you know..."touches" me...is it still a threesome since she's nto involved with him?...and do you have any tips?
2007-01-29 07:29:17 · 29 answers · asked by Fragile Stone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him about EVERYTHING ... before hand ... tell him what will upset you ... he needs to know if he's allowed to touch, kiss, stroke, play ... anything ... it's hard but possible ... let him know penetration is the one thing you don't want for him to do to the other girl ... make sure you let the girl know what's up too that way she doesn't jump in & starts f*cking your man before you even say a word ... lol ... as long as the three of you keep communication open - you'll be just fine ... have fun ... !
2007-01-29 07:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what is "she" there for if he can't touch her? Will you two girls touch each other while he watches? That's not exactly a threesome. A threesome is when three people get together and have s.ex with one another. Him with both of you and you both with each other. Don't be so small minded. It's only s.ex - as long as you don't think the other woman would go behind your back and try to see him on the sly, then why not try it and have fun. Only rule you should be worried about is he can't kiss her on the lips and him giving her oral - I wouldn't go for that personally - but you can make up the rules for yourself and if either of them violate it, then don't do that again. Just know however, once you get into that relm, it's very hard to get out. When you start having wild or exploratory s.ex, "regular" s.ex then seems so ordinary. Make sure you are ready to handle the responsibility of what you are being asked to do. Good luck.
2007-01-29 07:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it still technically is a "threesome" if he gets to have sex with one of you. And it's good to have rules as you go into this to keep everything in your comfort zone.
But, with the scenario you outline above it would seem you are not really ready for this as a couple. You say "he's smart enough to know NOT to touch her", which is cool if that is what you are comfortable with, but such restrictive rules can, and will cause problems. There is just too much opportunity for things to go wrong. Too many rules ruin the fun. Just enough keep it fun. Too many rules set yourself up for disaster.
Why do you not want him to "touch" her? Now, I'm assuming this means have intercourse with her. It's not completely off limits for him to actually touch and caress her is it? I mean, THAT is going to happen. Count on it.
Plus, what's in it for the other woman? She doesn't get to play with anyone but you? Some might be fine with that, but many won't. All the women I know would want the full experience of both of you. That is why they are bi and not lesbian.
Wade in slowly and see what you are comfortable with. Then discuss it afterward with your boyfriend and see where you want this to go.
2007-01-29 10:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well regardless of who is touching who...if you're all together naked in bed or wherever...I'd say it's a threesome.....
and just how are you going to accomplish anything by worrying about who is touching who? My advice to you is since you are obviously stressed about this already, don't do it!!! If you really need to discover what it's like to be with a girl, cuz obviously your bf isn't allowed to be, then just do it alone with her and he can either watch from a distance or you know.....
I have no tips for you, just think it's a bad idea, your relationship may not last long after you go through with this if you do.....
2007-01-29 07:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you are not even keen on the idea of having a threesome, if so, why even bother? You are only doing it for him and then he will tell all of his loser friends that he had a threesome and his friends will be looking at you in a disrespectful way...maybe you like that sort of thing?
2007-01-29 07:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a 3 some. My boyfriend wants to touch, etc but we have come to a agreement. I myself would not need to do that to be completely satisfied and I know my partner is satisfied with me. Some people just don't want to limit themselves as far as experiences go. I would rather that he would have gotten it all out of the way before we met, but his view is not to limit the pleasure we both give one another or have. Which is not completely true because there are a few things I would like him to do that he is not interested in. Just be careful as I am going to be, get yourself prepared, feel comfortable with what ever is going to happen before you do it and regret or fight about it. Good luck.
2007-01-29 07:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by lost angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tweaking a chap's nipples in public is defintely taboo. regardless of what some imagine they're erogenous zones ( they cone with the same form of nerve endings as girlies have) and one component can so genuinely deliver about a distinct, which will properly be quite inappropriate in Tesco's or anyplace.
2016-10-16 06:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
anytime during a sexual encounter, whether all participate or not, if there is more than two in the room, its either a threesome or more depending on the number....3 - threesome, 4 or more an orgy.
2007-01-29 07:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by ?! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfriend no to his request. a threesome involves three people so your boyfriend is going to be doing something to the other girl
2007-01-29 07:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that your boyfriend is not smart at all. As a matter of fact, neither are you if you let this happen. Don't you get it? He is using you and the others for his own satisfaction. Get away from this guy before he takes you down a road you do not want to travel!
2007-01-29 07:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by catfish 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋