I always wanted to get pregnant , have a baby and be a mom without being married . I got pregnant and had the sweetest baby three months ago . My brother says God will punish me for having a baby without being married . Is it wrong to have a baby without being married ?
2007-01-29 07:27:36 · 45 answers · asked by Prissy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If that's the case, I'll be in hell with you and so will millions more. Nobody on this earth is God, so we can't say what he will do.
2007-01-29 07:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋
No I wouldn't say it is wrong a lot of people today have kids without being married. I know it is a struggle especially if the help isn't there but you are a mom you would know how to deal with the child...I wouldn't say God would punish you...But I am not God so I couldn't answer that one.
2007-01-29 09:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this day and age..its very common, but wrong is not the right word. if you are in a loving marriage..then it is nice to have a child together and have a secure family unit...its a wonderful feeling actually.
if you can love and support a child on your own then that is all that matters. i am not religious at all..but your brother is so wrong to tell you that god will punish you for having a baby out of wedlock...i think god would have been more annoyed if you had had a termination maybe? i think your brother needs to butt out and get a life!! you will be fine honey....so dont worry!
2007-01-29 07:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. What's wrong is to get pregnant in order to get married. If you can FINANCIALLY and EMOTIONALLY raise your child on your own, more power to you! As for your brother being condemning, how does he know what God is thinking? That's pretty arrogant of him to think that he knows God's plans. God wouldn't have given you the blessing of your baby if he was out to punish you in the end. God just wants you to be a good parent to that baby.
Congratulations and good luck.
2007-01-29 07:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by roswell75 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't wrong to have a baby out of wedlock. I believe our God is a loving God, and will not punish us for creating a life. I'm 23 weeks pregnant w/ #2 and still not sure about marriage and do not agree that you should be forced into marriage just b/c you have a baby together. Good luck to you!
2007-01-29 08:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a baby before you are married. I did it. We got engaged at christmas of 05. Had a baby in June of 06 and actually married in Sept of 06. If you love each other and want it that way there is nothing wrong with that. GOD WILL NOT punish you for that. He will punished you for doing it out of pitty, regret, remorse etc. You are just fine!
2007-01-30 06:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by Heather A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If God was going to punish us for having kids while not married, then why bless us with them in the first place????
It doesnt make sense does it? If God wanted you to be married first then you wouldnt have gotten pregnant.
I am really skeptical of all the things I'm going to be 'punished by God' for. I think he is more forgiving than people know. People just use God as an excuse to judge and scare others.
If we go by what they say then everyone is going to be punished by God for something. Did you know God doesnt want anyone to get married so they can devote their lives to him? See its amazing what you find in the bible. And the whole bible contradicts itself anyway.
Just feel blessed with your new baby and continue on with your life.
2007-01-29 10:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy oh boy, some really cranky responses.
Sweetie I am a single mom..I chose to have my daughter after being with someone for 5 years, who disappeared when I got pregnant. Selfish, I think not. He is the one who is. and I think he will have to answer to God not me.
Your brother is wrong and so are alot people on here.
God will not punish you, god forgives all except if you take your own life. Just be happy and take care of your little one.
2007-01-29 07:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by Willow 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, its not. If it is, there is going to be a whole lot of people burning in hell (including me) for something that is supposed to be a blessing.
Its not right for anyone to impose their religious beliefs on you. That is between you and whatever god you pray to. Personally, I can't base everything in my life on some book that some guy wrote thousands of years ago in a completely different language.
If it feels right to you, then it is right, and thats all that matters.
P.S.... just because a person is not married, that does not mean they have no father. Or that he's not in the childs life.
2007-01-29 07:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
All the reasons you gave for having the baby sound selfish to me, "I want..."
What about the baby? When you take the responsibility to bring another person into the world, you need to be responsible enough to act on his/her behalf - not yours. Child rearing should not be a selfish act. It is a big disadvantage for the baby to grow up without a father around.
Marriages and relationships don't always work, but at least the baby has a chance at a two parent upbringing
2007-01-29 07:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by walkinandrockin 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No. The rules written in the Bible aren't even written by God (if a God even exists). They're just rules written by some guy a long time ago to keep people in line. So, do whatever makes you happy.
2007-01-29 11:27:41 · answer #11 · answered by K.C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋