Long distance relationship...im really confused?

Question

Hello. Im new at this and I just hope someone here can help me.
A few years ago I met this great guy on the internet and we have gotten along pretty well for a long time ( 2 and a half years aprox). Since we couldnt...and we cant...be intimate, we found new ways to be intimate that wouldnt require eachothers presence , like videos, pictures and phone calls (traveling is expensive and we both are studing). However, lately Ive been depressed, I dont want him to see me. I gained weight and Im not comfortable with him looking at me...I know im being insecure but I cant really help it. He keeps trying to convince me but the more he does the more I dont want him to and we got to a point where he is not even interested in talking to me anymore. He wont say it. But a girl can tell.
Not only that but meeting is something ive wanted for waaay too long...but I really dont have enough money and he is horrible at saving it...but...if he really wanted to he could.
Thank you all for reading this.

Answer 1

Girl, coming from a guy who have the same experience. I think you should give him a chance. Dont be so insecure about your looks. Really. What the damage has been done is that you refused to talk to him. A girl I know (long distance relationship) did that to me too and I dont know why. If you talked to him about it, he would be more willing to understand, but if you dont tell him and ignore him. He would just simply assume a lot of stuff, like youre not interested anymore which is not the case.. Right? So, dont be so insecure about your look, you dont know how he feels until he sees you. And trust me, if he really likes you, he would be with you no matter what and thats what makes him the right guy. If it doenst work out, then atleast you know that he was a shallow guy and wasnt the right one the first place. Dont give up just because you feel insecure. Tell him that you want to see him and he'll come up with something to meet up with you. In the mean time, dont make presumptions about how he would feel about your weight girl.

Answer 2

You have decided what you want to do, do it.