2007-01-29 07:26:26 · 10 answers · asked by wslonecker 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Neither.
That's a really odd question. It's like asking, "Which is better my right hand or my left hand?". Both are equally important.
2007-01-29 07:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
LOVE, for god's sake, only love...
I didn't have my kids yet but was (and still am) one, lol. So it's really great when you and your parents can unite as equals, as friends to solve problems. If a child is treated as someone not sensible enough and too much pressure is put on him/her, the babe might hate you...
I understand it must be hard. Still I believe everyone (including children) can only respect those they truly love. Otherwise they'll do what they want anyway - behind the adult's backs and they will laugh on them - behind their backs too. Or become rebels... or nobodys.
Sorry I am far from intending to hurt anyone's feelings. It's a sore topic for me, too.
So imho, love and trust are the keys. If all is well with mental health than both parties will find the common language.
Have fun... sure you'll cope. Asking the question means you are interested in doing your best :)
2007-01-29 15:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is more important, just remember to discipline with authority. The time out chair is a great tool, my children would sit a minute per year of age. Depending on their age, remember to explain there behavior and consequences. Your disapproval is with their behavior not with them. Remember to reinforce love at all times. Try to never hit with your hands. Hands are for love and hugs. Children learn what they live, you are your child's best example for the future.
2007-01-29 15:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need a good mix. If you only use love you will not be consistant and coddle the child so much that the punishments won't work because the child won't believe you are serious.
If you only use authority you won't have a parent-child relationship with the child and may be too strict.
I think that in a good mix you have consistancy, patience, understanding, appropriate punishments and respect.
2007-01-29 16:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both.
Disciplining is actually a form of love if done constructively and consistently because you set your child up for success by having consequences to not following the rules. It's the parents that spend most of their time wanting to be their kids friends that end up having the most difficult time. Kids can and will choose all the friends they want - what they need are parents.
2007-01-29 15:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An unanswerable question as the two qualities are orthogonal. Both attributes and very many others are equally important in child rearing.
How about:
Patience
Understanding
Flexibility
Listening
Time
2007-01-29 15:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Rockhead 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
disciplining with Love.
2007-01-29 15:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kids need to have a balance.
2007-01-29 15:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEAR ALL THE ABOVE MEANS THAT YOU LOVE THEM AND CARE FOR THEM IT MEANS THAT LATTER IN LIFE THEY WANT BE IN TROUBLE OK TAKE CARE
2007-01-29 15:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
everything is good if it is in balance
too much of a good thing can kill
2007-01-29 15:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by sm bn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋