Last year i was really good friends with this girl from my town and one night me and her got really drunk and ended up do some stuff, After that we were unseperatble she would call every nite and we would talk for ever until my mom found out and she said i couldnt see her anymore so we stoped seeing each other. and we hadent talked since then until she IM me yesterday and started saying how she has feelings for me and she wants to be with me but i moved on and Now i am with a guy... I dont think that i was truly with her when we were "friends" and I like guys but she dosnt understand that and she tinks that I was just with her as a test and i dont kno if thats what it was or if I was attracted to her but I told her that i wanted to be with my boyfriend and that i love him and she just flipped out and said that I was a fake and A b*t*h I dont kno what to do. My boyfriend dosnt kno about her and what if she tells him because she knos who he is!!!
2007-01-29 07:20:46 · 11 answers · asked by Sexy Blonde 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone experiments at some point in life, thats all it was. You were good friends who just fooled about. She obviously felt more about it than you did. Just tell her no and move on with your life. If she does tell your boyfriend, just be honest with him. Truth will set you free.
2007-01-29 07:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're lucky, she won't call back. If she does, calmly tell her that you've moved on and that you don't want to hear from her. Ignore the yelling, as some people really don't handle rejection well. She'll get over it.
As for your boyfriend, you need to decide whether this is something you're comfortable telling him now. If not, don't. Everyone has had experiences and previous relationships, which help to shape who we are. If you really get serious about him, you'll have to decide then how much to tell him about your past, including this minor episode.
If you are really worried about her telling him or she does tell him, just be honest with him about it without trying to make excuses. It will give you an opportunity to learn more about him from how he handles it.
2007-01-29 15:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by roxburger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow tough question! I guess I would consider going to the boyfriend for help. I would hope that he loves you enough to understand. I guarantee you it will be better coming from you than her! Most men think thats hot anyway, so he might not freak out about it at all. My wife didnt start playing around with other women until our 13th year of marriage, so I knew about it and we are doing well. So good luck and hope he is as understanding as I am!
2007-01-29 16:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend.
I am sure he would understand.
If she is acting like this then she sounds very attached.
You need to talk to her and explain everything. Tell her that you still want to be friends but if she acts like that then you can't have anything to do with her.
2007-01-29 15:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by Boo8081 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend what happened - ASAP. If he finds out from someone else it's going to damage your relationship more than if you tell him yourself. Also - you need to tell this broad to stop contacting you. Apologize for causing her pain and tell her you both need to move forward with your lives. After that, stop answering her messages, calls, etc. and if they persist I'd get authorities involved. She sounds unstable.
2007-01-29 15:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by Sissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your bf, first...even if she wasnt a test it was in your past and you should not worry about it...he will still love you...easier said than done (i know) but i think if you were so inseperable then you probably had some kind of feelings for her...just tell her that you arent sureplus that and once ur bf knows you wont have anything to worry about either way
2007-01-29 15:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was probly a faze, lots of people go through them. Go ahead and tell your boyfriend, be honest. Because if he does hear from her things maybe a lot worse. If he love you like you love him, it will not be a big deal. He will let it go.
2007-01-29 15:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Spell Check
2. Get over it, it was in the past, if your boyfriend doesn't undertsand that he's an idiot
3. Stop hooking up with girls
2007-01-29 15:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Nichole D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even if she does figure out how to contact your boyfriend he won't believe her. He should love you for who you are not who other people think that you are. Well hope everything goes over smoothly!!!
2007-01-29 15:25:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your worried tell him the truth and explain the situation......you'll probably get a WOW and some teasing from time to time but i think he won't make a big deal about it.....plus its better for you to tell him than some one else.....she sounds like she has some problems and i would stay away from her
2007-01-29 15:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by Rhylie and Paiyden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋