hi my gf finished with me after a silly argument at work 2 weeks ago. I was with her for 7 weeks. now when I ask her if she wants to get back with me she says she likes, me fancies me and has got feelings for but for now she can only give me friendship. what do I do? do I stand by her cos I like her. she got with me after leaving her ex, who she was with for 4 years. last nite she text me saying "she is having sum friends around and I cud *** if I wanna" I replied saying no cos ur best mate dnt like me and if she said nefin to me I'd loose it. she then replied saying "I should come and her best won't say nefin and if she did then it wud be me who wud loose it, cos whatever happens between me and u is our business" I used to txt and ring her a lot, and now I have started delaying in replying and in some cases not replied. so she then txts me asking why I didn't reply to her message. what can I do 2 get her back.....I love the girl. do u think I could get her back? what shoud i do ??
2007-01-29 07:15:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you both want it, then go for it.
2007-01-29 07:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems as if she holds a grudge whenever there is an argument so was punishing you by saying she could only give you friendship. She sounds to have cooled off and therefore called you to come over. Maybe she wants you back but does not know how to approach it other than inviting you over. Talk with her, see where she stands on this. If she still wants just a friendship from you then give her just that. Then begin to start doing things with other friends without having to always include her. Do not continue to persuade her into any thing more. This will put the ball in her court as to whether she changes her mind. If you make it too easy for her to get you back, then every time you two have a disagreement she will break up and say "let's just be friends". Hope I was of some help to you. Good luck to you!
2007-01-29 07:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 Weeks isn't long.
4 years is a long time. I'm sorry to say this but maybe you were the kind shoulder she had to cry on and attention when she needed it.
It sounds like the two of you are toying with each other. Some one will end up hurt.
You seem to be hung up over it and she seems to be in control. With this much anxiety over it I doubt you enjoy being this submissive.
If you believe the two of you have a chance then let her go.
If she wants you, she will come back in her own time when she has thought about it. At the moment you are being far too convenient and if this girl is using you then you are making a fool out of yourself.
I think the two of you will work things out. People coming out of long term relationships can have fragile eotions. Be kind in your words to her, dont be pushy and let her know you will wait for her, then stay away.
I think she would want to be with you or she wouldn't have had a big bust up with you. People who dont care about each other can't have such passionate arguments.
You say 'she left her ex'. Assuming you know why do things differently to how he did. If he was the jealous type, be easy going, if he was lazy be attentive. This will lessen her insecurities which she obviously has to bust up with you after 7 weeks.
Often women break up with men not only because the man has upset her or done something 'wrong' but because she is unhappy. This isn't always the man's fault.
I really hope you work things out with her.
Remember, you have tried, now leave it! you dont want to be making efforts if she is going to make u out to be creepy.
If all else fails, she wasn't worth it and you obviously are sensitive, caring and a sweet person so I hope you end up happy either way.
God Bless x
2007-01-29 08:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by vanessa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on.
This sounds like a classic case of puppy love and she is your EX for a reason.
If she considers you sloppy seconds, and from what you wrote, it sounds like she does, the best thing you could do is to find someone who can treat you better.
And finally, if she left her ex-boyfriend of 4 years to be with you, then you were well aware that you were just a stopping point on her journey of love.
The gig is up!
2007-01-29 07:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her the space she wants and she,ll come back play hard to get like your not bothered and she will most likely get that bit more intrested
2007-01-29 07:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by SHAUNA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all women are whores....except a few.
2007-01-29 07:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by Terry Jones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she does not like u anymore then u just need 2 move on with yo life and GET OVER IT!!!!!!! duh
2007-01-29 07:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by $-mo,mo-$ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋