Is it wrong to celebrate mother and mother in laws b-day together?
My mother in law's birthday is sunday my mothers birthday is Wednesday so I want to have a dinner for them is it wrong to have the two mothers toghether for there birthdays? My husband and I haven't been married for that long so they don't know each other that well they have meet a handful of times and used to talk on the phone a bit. My mother in law is very jelous of my mother that's the only reason I feel she wont be happy. I feel she needs to get over her insecuritys and deal with it she needs to start mingling herself with some of my family. She has been invited to my mothers house alot and always makes excuses.
2007-01-29 07:03:20 · 5 answers · asked by BabyDolll128 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I don't see anything wrong with that. It might even help to get them to know each other better. You can't force them to mingle but they are both family and should realize that they are both equally important to you. The jealousy issue can be tough. You can't make that go away. But you can help by making sure both mothers know that the party is for both of them and not your mother and her on the side. Make sure whatever you do you show that you care about each mother. For example buy them both a gift or neither of them. It may be easier for you to up your moms b-day because you know her better just don't forget you mother in law. During conversations make sure it's one that everyone can participate.Treat them both like queens when they are there and show them that you went out of your way for both of them together. It is a great idea and can work but it may just need a little extra work on your part.
2007-01-29 07:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by AB11 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not wrong, but I think you should honor each mother separately, especially since one of them seems insecure in the relationship. My mother hated my (ex) mother-in-law, so I made sure not to force the two the them together unless absolutely necessary. Have one over for dinner one weekend, then the other one the next weekend. Make each one's birthday special. There will be plenty of less formal occasions when you get the two of them together.
2007-01-29 15:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Gretch 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can't force your mother-in-law to mingle with people or get over her feelings. she is a grown woman, she will come around when she wants to or maybe not at all. seeing as how she feels this way about your mom, i wouldn't have a dual party for their birthdays. it would probably completely ruin her birthday and you are supposed to feel special on your birthday.
2007-01-29 15:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you havent been married long - start as you mean to go on girl...do the ONE dinner for both of them...give them some wine so that they relax, chill out and enjoy...and then do the same every year...they will be best of buddies in the end!
2007-01-29 15:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that is a wonderful idea
2007-01-29 15:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋