Okay I have not hate againsted anyone! but some friends of My partner and I are very christan focused.. they did the offer us to go to there church.. I would love to hang out with theses people but I don't want to be forsed to deal with tthere views on life! I don't beleive in there ways and nothing anyone will say or do will change that! i was born a christian so i know all about it! These people have the same intrest in us and they seem great fun loving people! but we haven't even really hung out and we are all ready gettting over killed overs of come to church with us! and all that good stuff! I don't want to convert them I don't even want it to come up! I just want to hike with them and play games and dinner parties! From what i have been told is they will not understand our views and will continue to preach to us! When we don't do anything of the sort!
what should One do?
2007-01-29 06:22:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Tell them you want to spend time with them
and list what you want to do (hike, games, dinners)
but you do not want to do the religious stuff.
They should understand and you will able to do the activities without them trying to convert you.
If they start taliking religion during your activities then you can remind them the rules of your relationship, and to cut it out
If they cant stop with the religion stuff you can find other friends
but I think they will be able to keep it seperate once you have made it clear and they understand the situation.
2007-01-29 06:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by brainiac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Religion is a matter of choice, and you've chosen not to be Christian as have I so as long as you understand your friends beliefs, they shouldn't have a problem with yours. Also, some churches aren't just for Christians and they encourage anyone to come along and have a good time. If they do try to preach to you, just explain your opinions, after all, that's basically all religion is, opinion. Hope that helps.
2007-01-29 06:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by MrGledhill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... if they're constantly preaching to you that must be quite annoying.
I'd accept the invitation for now because it seems like you're going to have a fun time since you have so much in common, but if any preaching comes up just shrug it off the first couple of times. If it becomes exasperating, explain that you're dead-set on your religion -- explain in terms that they understand. Say that you believe in your God as much as they believe in theirs. Or, if you're atheist, explain that you believe there is no God as much as they believe there in one.
One should tolerate first, then intervene second.
Good luck! Hope all goes well.
MaybeLater_x
2007-01-29 06:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Deconstitutionalization 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that you respect their religious views, but that it would probably be easier for both parties if religious activities were kept outside the purview of the friendship. It can be tough to deal when somebody keeps asking but you truly don't want to be involved. I went through this with my boyfriend who is Catholic. Perhaps a friendship won't work between y'all if they can't accept this. In that case, find different friends. You certainly don't want to have a friendship with someone who won't accept that you have and are entitled to your own beliefs. The best of luck with this. Hope it works out for you.
2007-01-29 06:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by eastchic2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems some things are better left alone. You can certainly find other things to do with this group than attend the church they go to. It would be nice to visit but would probably be best to have your own church to go to instead of the constant questions and challenges to your way of thinking and theirs. No sense in straining a good friendship with something as volitile as religion.
2007-01-29 06:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Greywolf 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them exactly how you feel and that you wish for them not to try to convert you, that you want the friendship but not the religious part.
If it doesn't work, move one with love and respect and tell them that. Some of us only meet to part, my friend. This may be one of those occasions.
2007-01-29 06:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by kickinupfunf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i leave it alone and try to educate people about secular humanism.
Tenets of Secular Humanism
Need to test beliefs; Reason, evidence and scientific method; Fulfillment, growth and creativity; Search for objective truth; Concern for this life; Building a better world.
Secular Humanism is a humanist philosophy that upholds reason, ethics and justice, and specifically rejects the supernatural as a warrant for moral reflection and decision making. The term was coined to make a clear distinction from ‘religious humanism’ and ‘Marxist humanism’. For more information go to:
http://www.en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secular_humanism
2007-01-29 06:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by robert2020 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My girl and her family are very God oriented, in fact i call them the God Squad. I am athiest, and we just deal with it however. It doesn't really matter. She can believe all she wants, and i can not. We don't love each other because we both believe in God, we love each other for other reasons. It doesn't really matter. She explains why she believes to me, and i explain why i don't believe. My reasons are pretty simple. I went to iraq, twice. I have done and seen things that i will never forget, and i see no way of believing in an all knowing all powerful being that would let that much suffering happen.
2007-01-29 06:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jon C 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A lot of people have been born into Christianity but still know little about it.
That said, you have to chose who you will be friends with.
Peace!
2007-01-29 06:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Merely explain that you have your own religious beliefs and will not be accompanying them to their church. If they continue to "preach" explain that you would prefer not to discuss religion.
2007-01-29 06:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋