MEN in need your help is he with someone ele honestly whats ur opinion????
met this guy at christmas we got on went away for 2 weeks and he was so sweet wanted to introduce me to his parents everything then....he has only had 2 serious relationships one for five yrs another six months. initially he was texting me all the time really really in to me we even looked at houses spent new years in a hotel together ..then all of a sudden he went cold said he had been thinking about things for a few days and he dint know if he wanted a realtionship..he still talks to me occassionally phones me...tellls me he thinks im lovely i know he still cares...but wants to go out with his mates and doesnt want a serious realtionship right now maybe later...does this mean he just doent want me why do things turn intially i was not even in to him how do i get him back to the way he was whats the best strategy he wont even see me know because he says us having contact make it hard for him whats the best way to be to regain that interest???
2007-01-29 06:21:48 · 14 answers · asked by racheal m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, you can't force someone else to "be in a relationship". Maybe he really isn't ready, yet. Maybe he's just no that into you.
What you need to do is tell him how you feel, why what he's doing is hurting your feelings, and what you'd like him to do to rectify the situation.
Once he has all the information, you can guage his response. If he STILL doesn't call or text or see you...then you have your answer and you'll know that it's time to move on.
2007-01-29 06:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by Silver 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I'm not a fella but the same thing happened to me just before Christmas so I know how you feel. It hurts. There are people who talk the talk but they don't walk the walk. In other words they say a lot of things they feel at the time but then their actions don't follow on.
I agree with Scott.
If your friend came to you and said all the above things, what would you say to her..... You have all the answers.
Keep your dignity. At least you owe that to yourself. It takes two to be in a relationship and you don't have to take this crap. Make up your make up your mind YOU don't want him and take control of the situation it will make you feel a whole lot better.
And if you do think you want him then you need to work on your self esteem and start being the person you need to be to attract a guy that deserves you. I know this sounds harsh but if he can just trash your feelings after all the empty promises he has made, is he really worth starting a serious relationship with?
He sounds very immature and insensitive. You can do so much better. Good to wallow in the misery and then get angry. Make up your mind you deserve so much more and mentally ditch the guy.....
Take care and in a couple of months he will mean nothing. And when you meet that special guy you will be so glad you didn't waste a moment longer on this one..... In fact wasting precious time on this jerk stops you from meeting your next gorgeous boyfriend. Thinking of you x
2007-01-29 07:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading through your story I wonder if maybe he wasn't quite finished in his last relationship? But I was worried when you mentioned about going on holiday and house hunting after only 2 weeks (That is a whole 14 days!). I get the impression that you were merely an interim, something to pass the time...did you every ask why the previous relationships had broke up after such a long time? Cheating, maybe? I also get the impression that you will have had sex with him...Score one for him in front of his mates!
Don't wait for him to decide what you are going to do, get on with your life! Accidently loose his number or something...You get the hint!
2007-01-29 07:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him, You will not help by pestering him, if he wants you he will miss the contact and come calling, If he doesn't you made the right move. Play hard to get its the only way he will respond either way. If he thinks you on a string to pull you back you will never have the old him back
2007-01-29 06:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by LAURENCE B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seek for an adventure that handed off only only before his exchange. grew to become into it a sexual come across that wasn't suitable for him. that's a risk that he thinks you're no longer sexual fits. do no longer modern-day your self as something distinctive than you fairly are in that element. He could think of he won't be able to fulfill you or which you won't be able to (or won't fulfill him). even nevertheless that may no longer the only substantial area of a relationship that's an substantial area, extraordinarily if his final relationships have been mismatches in that area.
2016-09-28 03:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by arieux 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to give him the space he is asking for, some guys really freak out when they think things are getting to serious. He may have got nervous about his feelings for you, give him a little time and then invite him over for dinner or take him out somewhere and talk to him about how you feel.
2007-01-29 06:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound young, so therefore he probably does want to spend time with his mates.... plenty of time to settle down later. And looking at houses after 2 weeks????? Come on, get real.
2007-01-29 07:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by James M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he wanted a relationship for a specific amount of time, used the sad old story with you so u fell for him, had a good time while his mates were busy, now he doesn't want a relationship anymore - u've been used.
2007-01-29 08:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by Hot British Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have the guts to just break it off and may just want you around for convenience. Advice- stop talking to him and move on. Sorry.
2007-01-29 06:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by Scott 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes gone off you, like the old saying goes theres plenty more fish in the sea. find someone who wants to be with you
2007-01-29 06:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by country boy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋