Why does my GF ask me questions that are going to upset her if I tell the truth?

Question

You women know what questions you ask. Like, " do you look at other women?" Should I start lying to her?

Answer 1

It would appear your girlfriend is feeling insecure so I doubt whether she could handle the truth. Conversely, if you lie and she catches you out she will feel even more insecure. You can't win here unless you can make her feel secure in your relationship. Your only viable option is to try to understand what might be behind the question she's asking and reassure her instead.

Answer 2

Asking you if you look at other women definitely makes her seem like she's feeling insecure. Tell her the trust and say something like, 'Sure, but not because I want to date them. I just like to people-watch.'

Be honest, but try to put a positive spin on the answer somehow. Like if she asks if you think some woman you see or some celebrity is beautiful and you do...say 'yes, but not as beautiful as you.'

If she keeps this up and is becoming way too high maintenance, then ask her if she really wants to know the truth and if you tell her the truth and she gets mad, then recommend she doesn't ask questions that she can't handle the honest answer to.

Answer 3

Your GF is definitely insecure with your relationship...She needs to develop a level of trust that is deserved....of course guys look at other girls, sometimes they're right in sight, you can't avoid looking at them...Looking is different than actually doing something with another girl. Your GF is a little too possessive and needs to stop asking, unless she has suspicions that are coming to surface due to something that she knows about, that you don't think she knows about..otherwise she wouldn't have to ask such things.

Answer 4

I am a female, and I find myself asking questions that will hurt me if he says the truth that I don't like, but the fact is, women like to know that their man will tell them the truth know matter what. So for future reference TELL THE TRUTH. Deep down, we love that.

Answer 5

She might be looking for some re-enforcement that you are committed to her. Best thing to do is spin the answer so it makes her feel better. So if she asks if you look at other women, say that you notice people, but they don't compare to you. Say that you notice a lot of guys looking at her and how lucky you are to be with her.

Answer 6

Every woman asks the same questions. I do too. Seriously, just lie... we don't wanna hear you check out other girls or that another girl has a nicer butt than she does. If you say the truth, she'll be upset.

Answer 7

She's asking the questions that will get her the answers she want to hear. I think she's looking and ready for much more than you're willing to offer. So her a favor and walk away. Let her find someone who will appreciate all she has to offer.

Answer 8

Nah, lying is never the best answer...
if she asks 'Do you look at other women?'
answer something like:
"Yes, seeing them makes me realise I made the right choice being with you"

*(small) "exagerations" are tolerated when in the shape of a compliment*

Answer 9

I love when my boyfriends says, I don't think she's that cute...

Like, he thinks she is kind of cute but not enough, and then at the of the the day he reminds me how much he likes me, the important thing is to let her know that you are with her for a lot of reasons and no matter how pretty someone else is, she is the one that has your heart for being beautiful and so much more...

Answer 10

i've done it in the past b/c i liked to get mad @ my boyfriend. something about him admiring another girl (though he would deny it) would turn me on.those were the times when i felt like having sex w/ him the most. odd isnt it? it's a thrill knowing that the possblty of loosing him is there. soooo weird. when u feel like the person is aalll yours, after a few years, it gets boring. no thrill, no chase.i may be alone on this one though....