But our budgets are crazy different. My budget is 20,000 and her's is $5,000 for the whole wedding. Can you have a catered event for under $5,000? She wants a full dinner, drinks and real silverware and plates. She wants to have it somewhere, not in her home or anyone else house. I am trying to help her but I am not sure if it's do able on her budget. She lives in Rhode Island and it's kinda pricey around there. Any suggestion or websites for small to low budget weddings?? She wants to be able to have 100-150 people.
2007-01-29 06:08:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She's going to have to 1.lower her expectiations. 2. cut the guest list to 50. 3.or plan on spending more money. Unforetunately if you tell her just that she'll think your a hater. So what I would do is call a few places and get price ranges for her. So that way she'll be able to see for her self.
2007-01-29 06:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It seems ridiculous to me for her to ask for your help, when you're planning your OWN wedding, but anyway...
What she's asking for is impossible. Simple as that.
If $5000 includes the chapel, the minister, the dresses the flowers , the food, the drinks and the reception venue, she's either gonna be serving koolaid and chips or she's gonna be rethinking her budget.
She needs to be more realistic. She can have a lovely day for $5000 or less, but not the day she's expecting. For instance, she could get married at the JP and spend all the money on the reception, which gives her plenty to spend. She can ask family and friends to do the cooking, which would cut the costs quite a bit. Her dress can come from David's Bridal or someplace like that, where it'll only be $100 or so. She can get married in the backyard and have the reception at home, which will give her plenty to spend on decorations.
But no matter what she decided, she'll need to accept that she isn't on your budget, so she's not getting your wedding. And she's not going to like hearing that.
Good luck.
2007-01-29 06:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not realistic.
Either she needs to have a way small wedding, or scale back what you want to do with food and drinks.
Mostly, she needs to remember that in the end, it's about the marriage and not the wedding.... if you're marrying the right person, the wedding (despite the keeping up with everyone else's wedding and all the other ceremony/reception worries and dreams) has to be planned around what else you want to do together for the rest of your lives!
2007-01-29 06:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by MamaMia © 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when my brother got engaged I sent his fiance a list of items she would have to budget for (i.e. ceremony, flowers, decorations, transportation, dress & accessories, honeymoon, rings, food, alcohol, service, cake, photography, videography, DJ, rehearsal dinner, invitations, wedding party gifts, marriage license, favors, postage, hair, nails, makeup, etc)
They dont have a budget, however, so none of these things had to be clipped. Find out what her priorities are, call around to get prices, and help her do what you can with what you have.
If she cuts the honeymoon, skimps on flowers, makes her own cake, gets friends/relatives to do photos & video, gets invites from target, skips the favors, gets a friend or does her own hair, make up and nails, skips the limo and arriving in style, simple candles for centerpieces, buys a used dress, and has a limited open bar so that only beer and wine are served (and try to find a place that lets you bring your own)...then she might be able to do it for $5000.
On a side note, I know its going to be hard, but try not to rain on her parade and rub your budget in her face too much...not saying that you have or are going to...but if I was you I would be particularly sensitive about it. Instead of how impossible it is, try to help her figure out ways to get it done.
Good luck! and congrats on your wedding!
2007-01-29 13:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay out of this and tell her to hire a wedding planner. Unless you have connections to caterers, rental facilities, staff, decor, florists that you can get at discount rates, she's asking you to do the impossible because she knows she can't do it.
She might be able to have a punch/cake reception for 75 people but what she wants at that price is totally impossible,
As for websites- just google budget weddings.
But you really should stay out of this- it's going to be a nightmare and "all your fault" if you start trying to help.
2007-01-29 06:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I did mine at a moose lodge. It sounds cheesy, but this moose lodge was newer and very nice! I got mine catered through someone I knew for $7 a head for food and $8 a head for drinks, through the lodge of course! My wedding cost about $3700 and you wouldn't believe how beautiful it was! Everyone still talks about it and the wedding was in Nov. 2006. I bought alot of my stuff for the wedding at Michaels craft store. They have isles of wedding stuff! Find someone who makes cakes in their home. mine was like $215 and it was tiers, square, and had real red roses in between the tiers. Shop around, you can pull it off with $5000!
2007-01-29 06:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by jacksonblonde 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no way it's going to happen. $5000 for 100-150 people in any situation is stretching it, let alone if she wants the full dinner and so on. She needs to re-evaluate her budget.
2007-01-29 06:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by surfchika 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
depending on where you are located try a family style restaraunt thats where i am having mine and for just over 1500 i am getting a family style dinner real silverware a wine toast horderves linnens their banquet room and ice cream to go with the cake for 105 ppl - so look around and let me know if you need help i will do what i can do from here and email you info
2007-01-29 06:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by dangerous1smile2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Catering a full dinner for 100-150 people will cost you at least $5k in itself. I don't think what she wants matches along with her budget.
2007-01-29 06:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by Tedo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you can pull it off with 5,000 because you can get a nice hall for 1,000 and dinner will be al least $15 a plate ($1500) and decorations and a photographer and invitations could be $1,000-$2,000. That's not including her wedding attire and make up.
2007-01-29 06:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by sexsired 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋