I,m sorry if I offended anybody asking about child abuse case files, but as I said in my second question my 12 week old grandson got beat black and blue by his father and I wanted to know if he will get prosecuted for it ,it has been reported to the police ,but my daughter is standing by him which i can,t understand because because he already admitted it ,and they are refusing me access because i dont agree with her staying with him ,and after all I love my grandson and as a grandmother i should be able to see him,
2007-01-29 06:07:05 · 16 answers · asked by jaydeetapp 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am very sorry to hear about your grandson I can imagine how awful and helpless you must be feeling . All I can advise is keep a close eye on the situation and never stop trying to do the best for your grandson even it means involving the police or social services again . He needs your protection and if his mum isn't willing to offer the little boy it you don't have any other option but to intervene .Your daughter might be frightened of her partner but the child should always be protected whilst his father is on the scene You sound like your a very caring grandmother . Hope it all works out well for your grandson xx
2007-01-29 06:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by scorpionbabe32 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't get what u mean when u say u are not allowed access, why hasn't the child been taken into care as yet ? If he was beaten black and blue by his father then he should have no contact at all until the case has gone to court ... if the mother is standing by her husband the surely the boy should be under the care of social services and then being a blood relative u would be granted access to your grandson.... U need to get in touch with social services and see where u stand in all of this and explain your concerns about the fact that your daughter still has this man living with her and their son, this isn't right ...... too many innocent kids die each year don't let your grandson become another statistic ......
2007-01-29 06:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG did you say 12 week old grandson????? I am so sorrry for you and the child. Your daughter needs to do the right thing. No way would i let anyone touch my babies thats horrible.
Im sorry I have little faith in child protection services. I know a woman that has 4 kids now and she only had 3 then and she beat the 4 yr old little girl bad, would only hit the little boy once in awhile. All the kids have different dads. She doesnt work.
She was reported over and over , she wouldnt wake up and the kids were outside alone, again they were called and did nothing, she jerked the kids by hair and called them really bad names, She didnt feed them right, one day was caught on tape leaving the 4 and 3 and 9mo old all home alone for 20 mins while she went to the store.
They did nothing. The baby girl is always black and blue, The house is terribley filthy and the state just seen the mess and gave her 2 weeks to " clean things up" after they say it was clean , she let it get dirty all over again.The only good thing that came out of the 4th babies birth was that this woman had complications bad enough that they got her to tie her tubes.
I will be preying for your grandchild Noone deserves to be hit, well except your son in law, I think he needs to know how it feels.
Good luck
2007-01-29 06:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by tammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can get prosecuted. My partner hit our eldest son and because I didnt report him to the authorities they took all 3 of my kids away including taking my baby when he was just 5 days old. He was also abusive to me, so you may find that your daughter has also been abused by this man. I have split with my partner and he is currently on the run as he is being prosecuted for abh against my son and me. Quite honestly i am surprised that your daughter and her partner still have custody especially with the child being so young. The police should report through to the social services and they will intervene if they think the child is in danger of future attack. I suggest if this happens you put yourself forward as carers.
As a happy ending to my own story, all 3 of my kids are returing for good on Friday this week!!
2007-01-29 09:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your grandson was 12 weeks old or 12 years old and was beaten by his father, the child would be removed from the care of his father, and his mother if she refused to leave the father. He would be placed into foster care and you as a grandparent would need to get yourself a solicitor and apply be become a party to the proceedings in order to get yourself contact with your grandson,
He would not be sent home with the person who administered the abuse and if the mother was still with him he wouldn't be allowed home with her either. You would also be considered as a carer for your grandson before a foster carer was found, as they like to keep families together.
2007-01-29 20:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jovi Freak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child should be on the at risk register if a complaint like this has been made - regardless of whether your daughter is standing by him or not.
As for them not allowing you access - if you are totally sure that this abuse is going on it is better for your grandson to go into care and you potentially never see him as opposed to him being killed by his father!!!
How anyone can do this to a 12 week old child is beyond me!!!!
2007-01-29 06:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by The Dragon 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Those files are probably confidential while still under investigation. If the child has not been removed from the home then you should raise hell with CPS. Once the child is in care of the state, you could apply to be his guardian.
While it's the saddest thing in the world, many women will choose the boyfriend/husband over the baby. They just don't seem to get the old saying "I would KILL for my spouse, but I would DIE for my child." Some women will even allow the molestation of their child if it means they get to keep the guy. Offer to pay for your daughters counseling if/when she is ready to take that step. Once her child is taken away, she will have a much harder time getting him back if she sticks by the guy.
2007-01-29 06:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter is just as sick as he is for staying with him. The baby got beaten at12 WEEKS! He could have killed him. If he did it once, he will do it again and her as well. I think you should see a lawyer to see what kind of grandparent rights there are where you live and keep bugging protective services to make sure that they are keeping a close eye on the baby. See a lawyer to see what else can be done. Good luck! At least somebody loves the little guy with ALL their heart!
2007-01-29 06:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by AKA FrogButt 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Louise and what she said and i think this is terrible case. The law is wrong. Don't be sorry this is a very upsetting situation to be in. Please get in-touch with some one who can help with you with this case. I don't know why your daughter is with her husband who could do such a terrible act to a small child it sickness me. Lets hope for the best the child goes into care so hes out of harms ways.
2007-01-29 08:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by janine e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds pretty serious. From PERSONAL experience with an ex-husband, if there are serious charges like that and ANY cause whatsoever for CPS/DCF whichever is in your state to suspect they are true one of two things would happen...
1) the child would be immediately removed
2) the offending parent would be immediately removed
If one of these two things has not happened then there are pieces to this story missing or added.
Just my 2 cents from experience...
2007-01-29 06:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by Betsy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋