well i have someone i am in a relationship with this person but i want the relationship to work but for some reason i feel he don't trust me and aslo i think he spying on me from the computer and i think the phone is tap cause when ask me question that basically none of his business he would say something out of the wall to see i am telling the truth but i don't know what to do cause i don't he like i think he is just saying that to make me feel good and i feel that he going to dump me even thought he said he wouldn't so what should i do cause he know computer real good and i don't to much about it but internet and email's and i feel that i am beening watch by him and aslo spyed on and for some reason he always use my past against me all the time so what should i do about us cause i don't feel wanted and aslo i feel i am beening use and played off my feelings and intellegenic
2007-01-29 06:03:06 · 7 answers · asked by MRS DEE 2 U 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't let him dis-honor you like that! Bottom line is if you don't feel in your conscience and heart you can trust him, you don't feel love, honor and cherished? Then I would have to say its time to find someone that doesn't play with your heart like that!Forgive him and move on!, there are other great guys out there that will not play so many mind games with you! Let me suggest what you should look for in a guy: 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Strong Communication. If they don't do these things then there not worth your time or your heart! These can be explained in my five biblical principles for finding your soul mate: Ask Yourself:
1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process.God Bless!
2007-01-29 06:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question? was really hard to follow, but I think I got the jist of it. If this guy is not trusting you, listening in on your calls, checking your emails etc.. and you have given him no reason to not trust you, dump him. He sounds like a very controlling person and it will only get worse if you continue with him.
2007-01-29 14:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's review:
He doesn't trust you.
He's spying on you
You think he's tapped your phone.
He's trying to trap you in lies.
You think he's going to dump you
He uses your past to hurt you
You don't fell wanted
You feel your emotions are being manipulated.
What's your question? You love him? You want to know what to do? Dump him. It won't work! Get smart.
2007-01-29 14:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well have you given him areason to soy on you , if so then you 've kinda have to understand were he commin from. or maybe he spyin on you because he the one who's ****** up so maybe you should check him
2007-01-29 14:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by lil, mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beat his *** beat his *** and let him know that u know his is playing games and let him know who wear the pants in the relationship shomp that hoe
2007-01-29 14:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by missjwalls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the as-hole
2007-01-29 14:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by wrfab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has problems move on leve him to it
2007-01-29 14:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋