Is somethin wrong wit us?

Question

My Boyfriend & I have been together 4 going on 2 years now... It seem like now out of all this time that we have been together we are starting to have arguments... Its like once we've done somethin wrong we get mad and get over it... But lately it's jus been commin up and getting worse... Its jus sickin because after we have finish talkin about it and we get over it like a week later we are on the subject again... Its really tearing us apart & i would keep tellin him that if its really hurting him that bad then maybe we should move on but all he would say is he is sorry 4 getting upset and he dont want it 2 come between us. I always give in and try 2 make him feel better ((later we both would be back on track)) but its starting 2 get on my nerves and now i'm askin ya'll wat should i do?

Answer 1

You're not compatible and probably never were, but instead of ending it 18 months ago, you had to cling to each other and "work it out" or "make it better"

Answer 2

Nothing wrong with you guys. Have a little bit of patience. You are guys at a certain stage in relationship. Ok maybe its coming down only now but some people experience it from the very beginning. Maybe you should both stop talking about arguments but start talkin about the reason for arguments and how to stop them. Good luck and please stop agruing over dumb stuff.

Answer 3

Basically a running argument that you or he can pull out and whip each other with when you want to blow off some steam, or hurt the other...?
Refuse to play that game. When it comes up again, say we've been there before, it's over and done. It's resolved. It can't continue if you refuse to let it.

Answer 4

Don't stay together just because you're comfortable because you've been doing it so long. Maybe it's time to take a break and see how you feel about each other in a month or so. If it's meant to be you'll find each other again.

Answer 5

you need to start dealing with the issues- actually resoving them, not sweeping them under the rug (they're still there , just hidden).

my fiance and i went through the same thing. as soon as we settled one issue something else came up. until we sat down and decided that instead of arguing, we will DISCUSS (easier said than done , mind you).

we are now on better ground. we have made a pact not to leave each other or go to bed angry with each other.

Answer 6

The it is the problem. You are not talking about (it), you are only agreeing to not talk about (it). The more you do this the worst (it) get. You need to be honest, if you want to stay with this person, you need to talk about (it).

YES THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG. This does not mean that you should break up, but it means that both of you need to workout the contentions.

Answer 7

I think that you should tell him how you feel, and tell him that if this relationship doesn't follow the path you want you are not going to stay in a relationship that gets on your nerves!

Answer 8

Im having the same problem, but bringing up leaving is the worst thing to do unless you are serious, and if you are serious, then maybe it is what you should do.

Answer 9

Four years is almost like being married. I think you should move on. I doubt if it is going to get any better.

Answer 10

maybe you should sit down together and ask him is there anything wrong .cos it might not be you it might be his job or his mates etc that's getting him down and his just taking it out on you. Also stand your ground.