I will admit i get a little jealous sometimes but my fiance told me that her ex boyfriend had been fired from the company they work at. Then a couple of weeks later i find out that he still works there. She said that she was told he didnt work there anymore. When i asked her about it then she changed her story to they only use him for installes occasionally but im not sure. I finally got her to admit she lied and she said she did it because she thought i would get mad. Also i went with her on a business call to deliver a part one time and when we get there i noticed her ex's truck and i looked at her phone and she had called her ex's nuber on the way there. When i asked her about it she said it was her ex's friend that was borrowing his truck and cell phone. I dont know what her ex looks like so im not sure. I just dont know what to do i love her but she seems like she is hiding things. Any advise would be greatly appreciated
2007-01-29 05:53:20 · 23 answers · asked by bob 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get out fast...these little lies are only a preview of bigger ones to come if your relationship moves to the next level.
2007-01-29 05:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa ... I was going to say people break up for reasons and not to worry about anything. It sounds kinda weird that the ex would loan his car and phone to someone though at the time when a part was delivered. I would get the phone number out of her phone and make a blocked call or call from an unrecongnized number. I mean you don't have beef with him and then ask him direct questions and then confront her. After all She would be the one lying and hiding things.
2007-01-29 06:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by girliegirl2483 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone hides the truth about an ex it obviously means something is still going on there. That's why it is said never have a love in the workplace because it just complicates things. You need to make sure that you talk to her and explain that TRUST, LOYALTY AND FAITHFULNESS is an important part of a marriage that you two are about to commit to. If she begins with lies here and there it will only lead to more once you two are married. She will easily manipulate you in thinking something that is not.
2007-01-29 06:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a female, I'd say she's up to no good. I've lied about things before and have been up to no good (but have NEVER cheated), and she seems to be doing exactly the same.
Whatever you do, you need to talk to her and see what's going on. My boyfriend of over a year has done things such as those in the past, and because we never really sat down and talked about it (just kind of got into a tiff and dropped the topic), his actions still affect me to this day as far as me trusting him (or I should say NOT trusting him).
I can't tell you what to do. All I know is that if she continues to talk to him, then she has crossed a line and she needs to leave her job or you need to leave her.
2007-01-29 06:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by :-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right obviously she is lying to you, and if she is doing it now, over something like that then hard telling what else she is lying about or will. The first and far most important thing in a relationship is trust and honesty. If you don't have that from the begining you never will, And I wouldn't let her decide how you will feel or react, meaning when she says I thought you would get mad, what lying about it is going to make it better,that don't make you mad? It looks to me that she is hiding something. Good luck
2007-01-29 06:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by tinydancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you have caught her in a number of lies all lies that have to do with her ex bf. If she doesn't have feelings for him anymore why is she hiding all this stuff from you. I think you need to tell her you want a seperation until she tells you the truth that might get her to open up.
2007-01-29 06:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She lied about him working at the same company and then she called him and then lied about that too. Not a good sign. You cant trust her now; before you are married, so why not just get out before you become even more miserable.
2007-01-29 06:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by luckybean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the woman that the marriage is off, (YOU DO NOT TRUST HER). If this flimsy excuse gets her to agree, she is not the woman for you. If she really works hard at building your trust, the truth will be known and your way forward will no longer be a mystery.
2007-01-29 06:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by whatevit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she feels like shes not doing anything wrong and youre getting jealous and possessive. Girls dont like that. If she wanted to be with him she would be. Maybe she would rather lie than deal with you interogating her. Tell her that as long as she isnt hiding anything from you, you can believe her. Once she gives you a reason not to, you gotta do what you gotta do. If shes open then she feels like she has nothing to hide cause shes not doing anything wrong but you cant make her feel wrong when she didnt do anything.
2007-01-29 05:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Candy C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably couldn't tell you, knowing how you would react !! Sounds like you've got the green eyed monster disease really bad !! Life is too short,if you can't trust her you don't need her.I have found that jealous people are that way,not because of what they know about others,but what they know about themselves !! FFT
2007-01-29 06:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋