We have been dating for a year now, but when we first met we talked about serious past relationships.He is a bit older than me (5 years).He has had alot more experience than me. I told him I had a bf for about 6 months (LIE- i have never had a serious bf and had only been on a few dates before we went out)but that was it and then later as our realtionship progressed,we talked about the sexual side of things. I told him the truth about me being a virgin, but I told him I did "other" things, that I never really did (So another LIE) well anyway he keeps asking me questions about this BF and i feel guilty for not just telling him the truth, especially a year later.I never expect us to last this long! I have told him since that I lied about all the sexual stuff, but he still doesnt know that this "bf" is fake and never existed. Sometimes i feel guilty but besides that is there any point to telling him the truth or should I just stay quiet and forget it? Thanks.
2007-01-29 05:51:46 · 12 answers · asked by HlpMePlz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep in mind i lied to him to begin with so he would be interested in me (guys think virgins arent going to give it up etc)..i really liked him and wanted it to turn into something more..he was mad when i told him that i lied about the sexual stuff, so i want to avoid drama if you guys think its not that important. Sometimes he even talks about marriage and I wonder if i will feel even more guily then.
2007-01-29 05:54:26 · update #1
I've always said that it's better to tell the truth no matter what. The reason being is that it's easier to remember what you said when it's the truth instead of having to tell another lie to cover up the last one.
If he can't handle the truth
**((You being a good girl w/no long term boyfriend ever))**
then he is just now worth wasting your time on whether you love him or not. My goodness it's not as if you lied and said you were a virgin and you were not. He should be happy that your firsts will be with him.
You need to just tell him straight up that you made up the boyfriend thing because you were afraid that if he knew you never had a boyfriend, he would think something was wrong with you and wouldn't date you. If he really loves you he'll get over it and probably laugh and think it's funny that you were so worried about it.
****YOU GO GIRL.....DO WHATS RIGHT.......AND TELL HIM****
2007-01-29 06:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by HDlovinggal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have written i believe you are to young or immature to be in a relationship taht is so serious . If your only problem is those little white lies you told and if you think he will be pissed about it then, this relatyionship is not worth all your worry's. Look girl you don't owe nothing to this guy it is your life and you will live happy with or without this guy so tell him the truth and see his reaction if he leaves you oh well there are millions of men out there....
2007-01-29 06:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by dillutedjuice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know how you're going to get out of this one, but maybe next time you will understand the importance of being honest in a relationship, no matter how long you think it will last. This also applies to job and friendship relationships, Tell the truth and you will never have to remember what you said.
2007-01-29 05:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is always the best policy. you should not worry about him being older than you unless you are a teenager and he is an adult. if he cares about you he will forgive you and be flattered that you have never been with a guy or had a serious relationship before him . it should be a ego booster for him . however you should keep in mind he may be angry at you for the lie not for the content of the lie.
2007-01-29 06:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that the past is the past and he is your future, tell him that this guy was a no-one, and that you are so happy with him. That shoud stop him asking, and if not, question him on why he wants to know about him so much? Dont be aggresive, but just try and draw a line under it and move on.
2007-01-29 06:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK tell what u just told us. That u did it to make Ur self more interesting. Also make sUre u say ur sorry. But, u just was a little ashamed of being a virgin.
I'm sure he will forgive u
if not then I guess u should just move on
2007-01-29 06:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I do not understand why he would bother to bring him up. The next time he does bring him up tell you that you do not like to dwell in the past and talk about old boyfriends.
This should stop him from asking
2007-01-29 05:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me personaly, whatever i don't know wont hurt and that's the way i keep it, if your boyfrined insists on knowing about the past, tell him the whole truth, along with your intetions behind the lies...i'm sure you've heard it before: if he loves you, he will understand.
2007-01-29 06:13:30 · answer #8 · answered by vandal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM YOU HAVE A CONFESSION FOR HIM I AM SURE HE WILL UNDERSTAND THE REASON YOU LIE..............................IF YOU DECIDE TO KEEP QUIET THEN WHEN HE BRINGS THE SUBJECT BE LIKE BABY I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT HIM NO MORE TS ABOUT US FORGET ABOUT OUR OTHER RELATIONSHIPS ITS ABOUT US LETS FORGET OUR PAST
2007-01-29 06:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by Hummm... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have ever lied if he doesn't like you for you he ain't worth it girl. you should definitely tell him and if he sticks around he may be the one for you. if not its his loss.
2007-01-29 06:01:55 · answer #10 · answered by kayla h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋