if you have hurt a woman and she tells you that she cant be with you anymore because she does not trust you. how do you let her know you really care and how do you begin to regain her trust so you can win her freindship back and then her heart back what can i do. she does no talk to me much now her new boyfreind does not like me and does not want her to talk to me?
2007-01-29 05:16:16 · 33 answers · asked by dekers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give her time and space.....
just call once a week, build a friendship with her so that she can start learning to trust you again.... take it slow, I am sure this will work!!! Good Luck!
2007-01-29 05:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude.......plz be realistic. She's moved on with her life and met someone else. There may be NO going back! If you've done something to destroy her trust, and if there's any hope of regaining her trust, it's gonna be a long time in coming. Impaired trust, is the hardest to regain (if @ all), in any type of relationship. Trust is required on a consistent basis, with infallible honesty and respect, thru word and demonstration. If this is the kind of guy you are and have been all along, then, you never should have lost her in the first place. Either it's her excuse for hiding the real truth (she's met someone else and wants (has) to move on), or she's an insecure individual. Not too many ppl would pursue a relationship with someone whose insecure, untrustworthy, or a "dumpster!" As much as you may care for her......Don't be impulsive! Be a "thinker!" and care enough about yourself, too. You just may realize, you deserve better!!
2007-01-29 05:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience and sincerity to begin with. Depending on how you hurt her, you may have to accept the fact that it's over and move on. Once trust has been lost, sometimes it can never be regained. If she already has another boyfriend, quite possibly she has already moved on. If it is over, learn from your mistakes and let it make a difference in your next relationship. Trust is a huge thing. Don't ever take it for granted and if you care about someone, make sure that you make every minute count. Life is too short for hurt and betrayal of trust.
2007-01-29 05:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will take time. You can't win her trust back even as a friend over night. Keep talking to her and tell her that you just want to be friends . Then tell her that just talking as friends you will show her that you can be trusted but you know it won't be over night. Tell her that even if you two just stay friends that you would be happy with that. Then over time you will show her that you do care . But don't step in the middle of her relationship now. Because then she will never talk to you if she thinks you where the cause of her break up. Then when things start getting rockey between the two of them . And they will if he don't want her to talk to you . Then just keep being friends. And be there to listen to her problems. And she will then come back around. But don't mess it up after that. Good Luck!
2007-01-29 05:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by mandimaydowhatshepleases 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, when a woman is fed up, no matter how much you want her back, there is nothing you can do about it. Since she has moved on it makes it that much more difficult. If the two of you are meant to be she will come back. Just know that there will be alot of time and effort needed on your part and it may never be right again. Try to be more careful with the next woman you date. Life really does go on.
2007-01-29 05:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her be. If you truly loved her and care for her, you'll accept that you screwed up and realize that she needs to feel she tried to be happy with someone else. If there is any chance of you ever getting her back, she'll come to you. But jeapordizing the relationship she is in only confirms for her that you can't be trusted. It's possible he doesn't want her talking to you becuase he's seen how much you hurt her and wants to prevent you from doing it again. Careful, you push too hard, and she may rush into something more serious to keep you away.
2007-01-29 05:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you lose someones trust it takes a very long time to get it back. Obviously she has moved on and is with someone else so if you care about her then just let it be. Hopefully time will heal her wounds and you can be friends somewhere down the line. But for now, her bf is her priority and not you.
2007-01-29 05:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Persistence, confidence, and being genuine are qualities few possess but all admire. Don't stop being her friend...let her know you are there for her. Smile when you see her to show your happy-to-see-her/positive side and you will warm her up. If you truly are sorry and have said so and told her how much you care about her...that is about all you can do. Backing off a bit is a great reverse psychology tool. Don't expect her to come back. Just work on improving yourself and learning from your mistakes for now.
2007-01-29 05:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dekers--Move on, buddy! If there's one thing I can say about women, it's this:
Once you break their trust, they will do the right thing and move on or they will stay around and bring it up in every argument.
Even if she were to come back to you, you have to be brutally honest with yourself and ask yourself if, in the event, she does take you back, would you be able to stomach all of the reminders?
You are in a wonderful position now to recognize that hind sight is 20/20. Are you going to chalk this up as a lesson learned and move on, or are you going to throw a pitty party and stand still in time?
It's your decision, hope you make the right one.
Peace.
2007-01-29 06:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has moved on but if you love her than i can understand why it is hard for you to let her go. Ask her if there will ever be a chance for you two again not over the phone ask her in person, Just say your sorry and that you are going to regret losing her for the rest of life and ask her if there will ever be a chance for you two again If she says no then at least you tried, see if she will settle for being friends.
2007-01-29 05:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by MissY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the hardest thing to gain back .All you can do is be their for her and let her know that you know that you did wrong by her ,and ask her how to regain that trust. I hope this helps you some
2007-01-29 05:55:18 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋