Does anyone know of an online chatroom/support group online that I could join to help me deal with the loss of my twins? Please let me know. I am having a very difficult time dealing with it. I find myself resenting my friends who are having beautiful healthy babies. I keep thinking "That should be me having my babies". I don't understand why God took them from me. Please help!
2007-01-29 05:12:44 · 15 answers · asked by Wondering 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm sooo sorry..... this sounds terrible. But maybe your twins were so perfect that God wanted them with him. I feel for you. I hate to say this but if you are having a horrible time dealing with this maybe see a therapist? They can really help!
2007-01-29 05:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by Queen of Kings 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i am so sorry! i wish there was something I could do to help you.i know people who have lost babies.my friend has had a really hard time getting preg and she was preg with twins but ti only lasted a few months.it really hurt her.she even got divorced or it.she doesnt even try to havekids anymore and i have seen how hard it was for and im sure your feeling just as bad.theres nothing anyone can say to take away the pain just time but sometimes that can take a long time.have you tried support groups?i would do an internet search for chat rooms like you are looking for im sure there are a lot.agan im so sorry and i hope you can find some way to be happy again.i can understand why you would feel that way towards your friends who are having babies.do you have supportive friends and family around you?its always good to have someone to ralk to about it.theres a lot of things god does that we will never understand but im sure he had a good reason for taking them.and they are in a good place.i know that having them with you would have been the best place but remember that that thay are in hevan with god now.but please make sure you get help.dont be like my friend who just pushes everyone awaym now.agani im so sorry and i hope you feel better.god bless you
2007-01-29 13:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had two miscarriages out of 3 births and it does hurt and you are normal! Even though this is hard to beleive, it happened because the babies could not be normal and how I try to cope is knowing they were not right and it would have made me selfish to have wanted something to try to live that couldn't probably ever function or be normal! I am so sorry for you and you can just hit miscarriage on your search and it will show support groups that can help you! I went to some of those sights and it helps! You are just greiving and it hurts! Also, with me, getting pregnant again quickly helped me deal with it! Best wishes and I can definitely relate! So so sorry!!!
2007-01-29 13:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by whoa,3boys! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. I lost my baby last week. Miscarriage is a terrible thing. I have been reading alot of poetry, that has been helping me. Here is a site that has a TON of beautiful poems written by women that have been through this terrible ordeal. http://www.honoredbabies.org/writing-center/poetry/ I am so sorry for you loss. Go to Yahoo.com, and search for support groups, there are a TON of them. I hope that you feel better. I know you will never get completely over it. Just make sure that everyone around you knows what is going on, and don't be afrais to ask for help. I will pray for you!
2007-01-31 03:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by ushi_gushi_head 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your babies. I've been a member of this site throughout my pregnancy (17weeks now) and it's been so helpful to me to share the good and bad with other women in the same phases as myself. You'd be surprised at how caring they can be and they don't even know you. I know how you feel though ... last year in March I was pregnant and a lady rear ended me on the highway one morning as I was driving to work. I ended up losing the baby due to the car accident and I was so upset and a coworker was expecting the same time I would have been and it was so hard for me to see her getting bigger / excited about her baby and knowing that could have been me. But I kept it in mind that everything happens for a reason, even if we don't know or like the reason. God doesnt give you more than you can bare. Check out the site http://www.i-am-pregnant.com/
You'll never forget them, but your heart will heal with time.
2007-01-29 13:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by Monica B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For an online one, try googling " Miscarriage (or stillbirth) support group".
I really think you'd benefit from a regular support group, though. Try calling your hospital or ob/gyn. Most have great support groups. My friend lost her 38 wk baby to stillbirth and her support group has helped her in so many ways. You may also want to try to call your church. Most pastors offer counseling or can help you get in touch with others who have been thru it.
I miscarried one baby and it was SO INCREDIBLY HARD. It's been almost 3 years now and I still miss him dearly. It's very normal to be jealous of other pregnant women/women with newborn babies. I remember just thinking "She doesn't deserve that baby!". It had nothing to do with them, but with me.
Good luck. I'm so sorry.
2007-01-29 13:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your loss...I know that there's no bigger and deeper sorrow than that of a mother who lost her own child/children...And I know how it feels to see people around having someone you've lost: my mom passed away when I was 8 months pregnant and couldn't see my son...I remember that everytime I happened to come across someone with a newly born child and her mom next to her I used to think 'Why did this happen to ME?' (I believe in no God so I had and still have nobody to blame for that loss)..Then I realized that, it didn't happen to ME only..such things happen to many people...there's no reason, they just happen...The only thing we can do is to somehow try to get over them, as hard as it may seem...Give yourself some time...And then, give yourself another chance to become a mother; that won't erase your sorrow of course, but it'll give a new meaning to your life...chidren mean 'life', your life seems to have no meaning for you now, but it'll have a new meaning one day if you'll become a mother...Wish you all the best, and remember: life is a gift, no matter how hard it gets at times...
2007-01-29 13:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't u try to conceive again? If you can't have baby anymore, try to adopt infants like Angelina Jolie. I know how hard it is. Twins, wrose, it's not easy to have twins. I wanted twins but i do not have. but Keep trying or get other options. Don't discourage yourself. Don't be disappointed. Everything has reason but god didn't let you know why but he has a reason to take them from you. Pray and tell him to give you more beautiful, clever and wise babies.Good Luck
2007-01-30 07:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try www.babycenter.com--I am really sorry for your loss. I had a miscarrage 3 months ago and I was having the same resenting feelings towards my friends and family that were getting pregnant and having babies too. I think it's normal.
2007-01-29 13:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by 2princesses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is a link to a 24/7 chat rrom to help grieving parents. Iam so sorry for your loss & hope this can be of some help. God Bless
2007-01-29 13:19:53 · answer #10 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing i can possibly think to say to comfort you- except that everything happens for a reason and though you can't see it now, there is a reason for your loss. you are not being punished. i dont believe that the universe/gd give us anything we cannot handle- i truly believe that. this happened because you are the strong enough- you can get through this grief. perhaps this is to prove to yourself how strong you really are. below is a support group- i dont know where you are but i send you my love and strength- and hope this helps.
2007-01-29 13:31:22 · answer #11 · answered by orange blossom honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋