how can i convince my mom to get me home-schooled????????

Question

im in high school and i've been having so many problems and i've been suffering from depression plus i think i used to have ADD or ADHD and it has affected me a lot and this is a long story and i really want to get home-schooled because i am sure i'll graduate and i hate dealing with peer pressure at school and competitiveness..and a long long story...
can you also give me some good home-school companies, i already know about PennFoster..

im not in public school..

Answer 1

Ok there are a LOT of homeschooling companies out there and it really depends on what you are looking for. Do you want Christian or secular based curriculum? Do you want your studies to be online where you have an online instructor and some sort of diploma program, a DVD based classroom where you watch a teacher teach a full lesson on DVD and then do your work either in books or online, do you want a computer based curriculum that has the freedom to be customized by you or your mom and is not part of any outside grading or diploma program, or do you want a book based curriculum? How much can you afford to spend on curriculum each year? The costs for homeschooling curiculums depending on what you want, there is one free one that I know of depending on the state you live in, the rest range from $200 into the thousands.

As for how to talk to your mom, I would say come at it with a mature attitude. Sit down before hand and write a list of all the issues you have with public school and then next to each one write why you think homeschool will solve this problem.

Do either of you parents stay home during the day? If not this maybe a big part of the problem. Can they trust you to stay home all day by yourself and get the work done? You might have to make some sort of agreement where they allow you to try for a one month trial period and if you do not fullfill your end of things you will agree to go back to school. No attitude. No excuses.

Another thing you might do to show you willingness to show them is to say "I will finish this school year and do my best, but could we try homeschool over the summer, and if we both see that it could work then I could continue in the fall instead of going back to school. This would show you are willing to sacrifice some of your fun time to at least try.

You also need to look into the homeschool laws of your state and see what exactly is required. You can find that information here.
http://www.hslda.org/hs/state/default.asp

Good Luck.

Answer 2

To be honest with you, I don't think homeschooling is the best idea for you. If you have ADD or ADHD or something like that, your focus is only going to be worse without someone watching you, like they do in a traditional school setting.

And you have to get used to peer pressure, it only gets worse when you hit college, because everyone you know goes out and drinks, and if you want to stay above that, it takes something special.

Also, you don't "get" homeschooled. You "are" homeschooled. Homeschooling is a serious decision, and while I don't agree with whoever it was that said you would never see anyone and become a social outcast (typical public-schooler opinion, by the way...), and would have the same teacher every day, I can tell you from experience that it doesn't offer the things that traditional school. Homecoming court, football games, and of course prom and graduation, are hard to beat, and homeschooling doesn't really offer those things....

Homeschooling doesn't limit your social activity, though. It opens your day to other things. Rather than having to go to class all day long, and then come home and do more school, you have "x" amount of schoolwork, and then once it's finished you're done for the day. If you work fast - and do it right - you only have to spend maybe a couple hours on a subject.

Answer 3

Have you spoken to your mom about the above points: depression, ADHD, peer pressures?
Is your mom home most of the day? Do you feel she would want to teach you at home...or not? Are you trying to run away from something specific? Why do you say your mom would "graduate" you? DO you feel you are close to dropping out or flunking???

I feel it is important that you discuss everything truthfully with your mom and dad. You must be open. Tell them why you feel this would be better for you and your future. Be honest and they will need the time to think, yell, or get adjusted, but that is the basis of a good future for you and them.

High School Homeschool is not going to be any easier! You will need a good English and Algebra book, you will need at least one year of a foreign language, Biology, Physics or Chemistry and several Social Science segments. YOu will also need to concentrate and catch up, read great literature, practice writing and do some sort off class that will equalize your ADHD, like yoga, or karate, or violin....

I hope you talk openly with your mom! :o)

Answer 4

A really easy way would be to buy or rent the book: The Teenage Liberation Handbook: by Grace Llewellyn (Paperback - Sep 1, 1998), and let your mother read that first page, there is a letter to parents. It usually does the trick, you have all the arguments you want and she has a better understanding of the situation.
You need to realize that the biggest problem would be to have your mother overcome her fear that she might not do the best for you. Make this more a problem for her and help her get over her fears. The book is even today the best curriculum for homeschooling so you wouldn't really need more than that and maybe an internet connection.
You are right to try to get out of there and you deserve much better. Look up the book at the local library, or get it at amazon.

Answer 5

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time but it doesn't sound like learning is the problem. It sounds like your having socialzation issues. The best way to learn to deal with this is right where your at.
You'll be graduating and out of school soon. Then what? Not being able to handel social situations is really going to handicap your ability to hold a good job.
Like very many high school kids ,it sounds to me like you have selfestem issues . Talking to a favorite teacher might help you divise a plan to learn some coping skills.
How about this, try focusing only on your class work for now.Get interested in an aspect of each class. Get a study book for your PSAT and get yourself ready to take them. When your grades improve you'll start to feel better about yourself as well.
Find a club that interests you and think about joining next fall. This summer, get involved in a teen group that has nothing to do with your school. Their is an election coming up. Find out all you can about the canidates and how the issues will affect you and your family. Look into a young peoples politicle group, somthing like Rock the Vote maybe?www.rockthevote.com
Probably most important is to find an adult you can trust to talk to once or twice a week for a while. Someone you can use as a sounding board. And really listen to advice or ideas they might have for you. Don't be so fast to toss off somthing without a try.
If you are happy with yourself, proud of your work, it will be easier for other folks to see the goodness in you too! Be patient, consentrate on bettering yourself, and remember don't fall into their trap. Treat other people the way you want to be treated and eventually, what goes around comes around, I promise

Answer 6

Make a list of the benefits of homeschooling--there are lots of pages online that go through the pros. It's good to know the cons, too, or the supposed cons, so you can counteract it. Approach your mom with it and make sure to not get argumentative. You just want her to hear you out and you need to hear her out. Say back to her in your own words, if necessary, what she's said so that she knows you are really listening to her. "I understand that you are worried that I..."

Do find some way to tackle the depression, even if it's through self-help books or sites. If it's severe, find a counsellor.

As for companies, I'm hearing more and more about American School http://www.americanschoolofcorr.com/ . You might also see if your local district or if your state has an online program. The district board should know if the state has a program. You can also see if they are signed up with http://www.k12.com which is free (if the state has academies through it) because it's public school online.

Answer 7

You aren't going to like hearing this, but based on what you said, I don't think home schooling is the best option. I suggest talking to your counselors. I hate to say this, but dealing with competition and peer pressure are facts of life. Haven't you heard the phrase "keeping up with the Jones'"? Part of High School is learning how to deal with those things before you hit real life. Remember, when you are an adult, your problems in high school will seem trivial. Also, ADD and ADHD aren't disorders that just come and go. They must be addressed phychologically and sometimes medically to see any positive progress. Your Counselor may be able to suggest a continuation school where you have less peer interface and get to work on a more individual basis. Keep in mind, home schooling isn't just about you. Your mom has a lot to consider there. If you want her to begin to consider your wishes, you need to look at all the angles and address all of the changes that would have to be made. I'm sure she would be looking at things like the cost to home school, the hours of supervision needed, her level of education, if it will actually benefit you. Most parents don't make choices only because they want to be mean or what's easiest for them. Most parents look at your overall well being and how their choices will effect the family. Hope that helps you.

Answer 8

I have been in public shcool and in Homeschool and personally i choose Home school. Not just because you dont have to get up early and things like that. But because it has tons of benefits

#1 you can work at your own pace and you dont have to keep waiting around for the "slower"ones to finish.

#2 You can set your own schedule.

#3 No peer pressure.

#4 you graduate a heck of a lot faster. (Right now i can graduate at 16 instead of 18)

#5 You have qualified teachers that will send you help on the subject.

#6 You wont have people making fun of you.

#7They have a lot of things to pick from like extra courses in Math Science...ect. They also have traing in different trades like capenters, electrictricians, Biologist, journalist, Photographer....and so on

Well you get the idea. the program i'm in is called American School. It costs $1,000 i know it sounds expensive but thats for the whole 4 years of high shcool. And you get to pick more electives.

Answer 9

I am sorry you are experiencing negative in your school. Can you try to contact the counselor of yours at your school to talk directly with your mom about it. If you go to your counselor and talk about it. Sometimes the parents don't see things the same way. I would suggest you to try the adult to have the conversation by one and one to get your mom see as the way you want. Change school can be better and still be inexpensive way than a home schooling itself. I put my boys in the Christian school instead in the public, because I am concerned about the way the students treat my boys as once they find out they have the deaf parents. I have found that Christian school don't allow the competitiveness or anything else - so all the students treat everyone else equally and fair no pressure there, My boys loves being in their christian school.

Answer 10

You don't say what area you are in, but there are school-at-home programs using laptops and online curriculum in many areas. Look up http://www.k12.com/ for one example. But if that isn't offered in your area, search things like web based or online school or education and your state. In our area, Clackamas Web Academy is offered through North Clackamas School District. Check it out for an example of what might suit you.