My brother(18) and his girlfriend (19) have been together for about four months, she has lived in our family's house the ENTIRE time. She got my brother fired from his last job, and he is now working at mc donalds, she sits around the house all day doing NOTHING! that isn't the worst part of it all! They fight ALL THE FREAKIN TIME, every night, when I'm supposed to be sleeping, I have to hear them yelling and screaming and fighting, well I am getting soo tired of this, since I was late to work this morning and soo tired, because I got no sleep. He is my brother and he loves this girl, but is it wrong of me to slap this b*** and tell her to get the hell outa the house, Oh yeah and my mom refuses to tell her to get the hell out! Can I kill her in her sleep?!? Ha ha j/ k j/k Is this a healthy relationship, and is there anything I can tell him to stop this?
2007-01-29 05:00:27 · 16 answers · asked by bluemoon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It concerns me how your mom would allow this girl to run the home in this way. What is wrong with your mom? Is she so afraid to not let your brother get his way? In answer to your question, no it is not your place to slap her or anything of that nature. If is up to your mom to ask her to leave which obviously does not sound as if your mom is wiling to do this. I feel bad that you have to live under these conditions but until you are able to be on your own and get your own place, there is basically nothing you can do. Remember this, this girl would not be able to get away with all she has been getting away with if your mom and brother did not allow it. Wish I could have been more help to you.
2007-01-29 05:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't joke about killing or hurting another person... someday someone may take you seriously, or you may be tempted beyond your strength, and do something you regret.
No, this is NOT a healthy relationship, and it's not fair that it's impacting you. If you are over 18, I would suggest moving out. if you're still a minor, I suggest telling your mom that while your brother is an adult and therefore responsible for his own life, your mother is still responsible for you and your welfare, and that having this quarreling couple around all the time is threatening your work and health.
Also, try to talk to the girlfriend, as a friend, and try to understand things from her point of view. Maybe there is something going on that you aren't aware of that explains why she isn't working and why she is living at your house.
2007-01-29 13:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know your brother is not in a healty relationship. It sounds like your family is not in a healty relationship! I am shocked your mom would put up with something like this. I sure wouldn't! Who ever is paying the rent has the upper hand. If that is you then tell her to get out or get a job. If your mom is paying all the bills then there is nothing you can do but buy some ear plugs.
2007-01-29 13:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness gracious me. Your mom needs to step up and kick them both out. If not the brother then definitely the girlfriend who is obviously just taking a free ride and contributing nothing to the household. Maybe you should b*tch slap her, sounds like she needs it!!! You could try talking to your brother but it sounds like he's pretty whipped. What I would do is next time they are arguing at night I would storm in and say "can you two keep it down some of us have to work in the morning" while looking directly at the gf.
2007-01-29 13:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yikes, no sorry you can't force the ending of this. It's not a halthy relationship and probably won't last much longer. But if you try to force the issue, then your brother and her will end up thinking that you are the cause of all their problems. Your mom has the right idea, let them find out on their own that they are miserable together.
2007-01-29 13:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is definely not a healthy relationship and you should talk to your brother about how you feel and see what he thinks...also talk to your parents about her and the living situation, they maybe able to assist you in making some household changes.... good luck!
2007-01-29 13:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, most 18 and 19 year olds cant take care of themselves. ask anyone in their late 20's or 30's where they were and what they were doing at that age. what will you be doing? try to concentrate on your life so you can be a successful person at this age. peace
2007-01-29 13:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your brother and explain how you feel. Or you could sit them both down and tell them how you feel.
While it is normal to fight now and then, this doesn't sound healthy.
2007-01-29 13:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by Legna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that crazy girl needs to leave your brother alone first of if she makes him lose his job that reason enough and now shes interfering with your job so she needs to get a job or get out thats what my father has always told me and because of that by the time i was 21 i had enough money to movie out any way
2007-01-29 13:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG. What the hell? Her A$$ needs to get out and not come back. Or your brother needs to find a place for them. Your mom is a wimp! Smack her into reality cause she is not protecting you or your brother.
2007-01-29 13:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋