I am a quite romantic guy.
but I have sex to keep my health or to be healthier.
After good love making , I always feel better and look better.my whole body works better.
I need sex at least 3times a week. ( I can do everyday)
BUT it gives me a mental agony.
for example I have a gf, a sex with her is great , but I dont love her. I just like her . Its like a sport with pleasure to each other.
sometimes I think
" what the hell is real love, it is just a fancy illusion.
all we need is good sex to live healthy life.even though we dont love each other we can mke wonderful love making"
but deep inside I have a very romantic urge also, like finding someone special and living with this special one forever.
so sometimes I am confused with myself.
any honest opinion?
2007-01-29 04:55:37 · 33 answers · asked by earthlove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds to me like you are using sex as a current replacement for love.
Yes I know you saw you like it because it helps keep you healthy, but look at it this way:
How are you going to find the right person if all you want to do is have sex?
There is more to a relationship than just sex. If you are looking to find a serious relationship with someone you can love and not just like, then put sex on the afterburner.
Try going to a gym to stay healthy while you are on your quest for love.
And remember sex with someone you love is more often sooooo much better than with someone you just like.
2007-01-29 05:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by cmssko 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There have been claims that say sex is healthy, but you gotta be aware of the big picture. If u have mental agony maybe u should stop for awhile just to clear ur head. U think "love is an illusion", lots of people do for they all have a different perception when it comes to love. Love can be defined as sex, it can be defined as a relationship, it can be defined as anything. If ur gf is just for sex and u dont love her but she loves u, break-up. The more u wait, the more out of hand its gonna get. Let that romantic urge come out, hang up the sexual side for awhile. To find that special someone u can't be having sex everyday, all that does give pleasure and prolong the search of a beautiful woman that you'll be with forever.
1. Hang up the birthday suit!
2. Break up with ur gf, or let know ur feelings so she doesn't get hurt
3. Start searching for that special someone!
2007-01-29 05:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by caring black guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is called “being human”.
We have our instincts telling us to go and have sex as it is our only way reproduce. But then you have the “feelings” that ask you to have only one partner, and to stay together. Once you find it, we call it “love”.
I think you are just as normal as everybody else. We all need sex, not only to reproduce, but it is a way to release stress, to become happy, and good exercise in most cases as you heart pumps faster, and you have to use many (if not all) your muscles while having sex.
It also helps clearing your mind. It is recommended by most doctors, including to those who are single and they have depressions and other similar problems.
If you have a girlfriend as you said, and you two have sex, but you don’t consider it “making love”, then is up to you to keep doing it, or to leave the relation and find someone you can actually love. Besides, does she know how you feel about the whole thing? Women are usually much more romantic and need more affection than men as it is their own nature. She might really be in love with you and be thinking you really love her. If that is the case, and you care for her, you should talk to her before you literally break her heart.
On the other hand, if you actually care for her, then maybe there is love there, and you haven’t even realized it. Whichever way it is, is all up to you. Besides, love is not something you look for, it is something you actually find without even thinking about it.
By the way, I liked that definition of “sports with pleasure”. I should tell my wife ;)
2007-01-29 05:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, good question !!!!!!!!!!!!
(I lik eit everyday too) at least once
it does make me feel healthy and happy too
Its a mistake to have sex with people you don't love and who don't love you though. Like having candy instead of a full meal kind of. Then you wonder why you are still hungry then after.
So, at least make sure you like the person, then make sure you REALLY like them, then only accept people you love as sex partners. Then hopefully you find somebody who gives you more than you could have possibly imagined so don't even want or need anyone else and hopefully it stays that way. Its rare but it does happen sometimes, sometimes it even stays.
Its like an Evolution kind of thing.
Masturbation and empty f ing .........evolving into............everything.
2007-01-29 05:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...
Ok well firstly, it is pretty dang shallow to have sex as exercise with no love incorporated into it. You might as well be a dog.
C'mon love, you have to open up you're freakin' heart if you are actually going to LIVE. You may be as "healthy" as you want but you'll still die early because your morale sux. Also you know you are shallow and are therefore unhappy with yourself.
Do your girlfriend a favor and leave because she probably actually loves you! What a jerk!
How can you have sex to stay healthy and for no other reason. You are sick minded. I don't even want to give you a good answer.
2007-01-29 05:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find someone who you love to be completely happy. Sex is healthy for you as it burns calories it's not good for you if you catch something from someone by not being careful. Quit your relationship and go find that one person who will make you feel love as being in love is the healthiest feeling out there and making love with that special person will be double the pleasure mentally and physically that you're experiencing now.
2007-01-29 05:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by onecutebyrd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is understandable to have your concern.
And yes, sex is good for good health and when you
find a partner who enjoy sex and enjoys your company
as well is quite the boon.
Some say that sex outside of love is just mutual masturbation.
If you have guilt and don't love your girlfriend, then you may
wish to find any other female who can be both. Why cut
yourself short when you could have both?
2007-01-29 05:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by sagegranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are basically not looking to get in a relationship you just think that sex is great and that it is something to do to keep you healthy and looking good.... Sex should be more that, you can have sex with anyone!....you should actually be having sex to your girlfriend with whom you see yourself being with for the rest of your life.... if you were in love you will know that you are in love, it is a strong feeling that you can not resist!! Good luck on finding real love!
2007-01-29 05:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A number of guys face this situation. The very fact that you have articulated your thoughts really well, speaks volumes for the amount of time you've spent thinking and pondering these things in your heart. It really would be up to you, whether or not you decide to follow your heart.
2007-01-29 05:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Malfoy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep having sex with her untill u find the right person that u love and then tell her the truth and try and go out with the girl u like,
p.s. send me a picture of ur girlfriend lol
2007-01-29 05:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by aznteen333 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋