2007-01-29 04:35:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My fiance seems reluctant to put money out towards a wedding. (Even though he did bye a nice engagement ring.) At the same time he seems to want nothing but the best if my dad is paying.
2007-01-29 04:45:15 · update #1
If your fiancee arrives at your wedidng, and leaves the car running, He might leave you at the altar
If your find the bill of sale for that ring, and it is bought on time, and has YOUR name on it instead of his, you might be left at the altar.
If your fiancee asks if his girlfriend can come to the wedding, you'd better hope he leaves you at the altar.
If your worst fight about your wedding was about the date, and he couldn't find a date between hunting, fishing, football, basketball,hockey, and baseball seasons, and he grudgingly accepted a date where there MIGHT not be any playoff games happening. You might be left at the altar.
If his proposal to you had the words "Is it mine" in the sentance. You might be left at the altar.
If when you go out tux shopping with him, and his biggest concern is the rental shops cancellation policy, That's a good clue you might be left at the altar.
If when you wake up on that special day, and call your fiancee on his cell phone to chat like lovers do, and a recording says the number is no longer in service, or has been cancelled, You might be left at the altar.
If a delivery man from the florists shop shows up at the church with flowers for you from him, and the box holds a dozen thorn encrusted twigs with the flowers all cut off. Thats a good clue you're going to be left at the altar.
And finally, If your fiancee insisted on being in charge of the liquid refreshments at the reception, and one of those beer trucks like you see all the time in front of the 7-11's shows up at the church asking for a down payment, you had best leave HIM at the altar!
All in good fun, Best wishes
2007-01-29 14:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just b/c your fiance doesn't want to put any of HIS money into the wedding doesn't mean he's having doubts. It sounds like he's fine as long as your dad pays...which tells me that he's a normal "dude" who doesn't see any practicality in paying for a wedding when you could go to the Justice of the Peace for way less! I'm not saying that's what I'd do(I had the dream wedding and loved it!), but my husband would have been just fine getting married at the courthouse...he's an economist and super practical.
Now, if there are other things that have happened then that's a different story. Like if he keeps making excuses to push the date back or he's become unusually distant. Otherwise, it really doesn't sound like anything more than him being a bit frugal with is money....but that may be something that needs to be discussed BEFORE you marry! Money is the #1 fight among married couples. I hope this helps! Good luck!
2007-01-29 06:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by emrobs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are feeling that you may be left at the alter I suggest you talk to the person that you are getting married too. If there are signs that he/she might be having a hard time with the way things are going and that there are wedding jitters discussions are really needed at this time.
there is a reason that these feelings are coming to the surface and only you would be aware of what is happening.
Talking is a great way to find out what is happening or what might be on your partners mind. Discussions are a real huge part of marriage and relationships so get talking
I hope it all falls into place
2007-01-29 04:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him about his comfort level at this point. I would think that avoidance of talking about the wedding or plans for your future would be a sign, but trying not to spend too much money on the wedding really isn't at all.
2007-01-29 04:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by brown_iyed_grrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to have to say if he doesnt show up- or doesnt come home a few days before the wedding... Tons of fighting, no interest in the wedding whatsoever, not doing what he is supposed to do such as tux rental/purchase, or whatever.
i like the running shoes thing though....lol.
Honestly though- you never know until the wedding starts and if he is there or not.
2007-01-29 04:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Were you planning on leaving him at the altar?
Some guys buy the ring and think that's it for them. No help with finances and none with wedding planning.
Count on him being cheap and conservative in the future as well.
This is only the beginning.
At least you'll know what to expect before you get married.
2007-01-29 05:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by ... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question, I think you shouldn't be getting married right now. Wait until things are more sure - you should have complete faith in the person you are marrying. If he's reluctant now, pushing forward - whether your dad pays or not - isn't a good idea. Wait to see if he gets 100% on board.
2007-01-29 04:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he mentions not being ready for marriage...not being sure...I would say just about any hesitation on his part should be viewed as a warning sign. Better to address it now than worry about it later.
Also better to be left at the alter than regret marrying the person - as sad as that may be...
2007-01-29 04:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband arrives at the wedding wearing running shoes.
2007-01-29 04:39:27 · answer #9 · answered by risa_rific 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Him not showing up at the wedding??????
2007-01-29 04:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by chazzer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋