Daughter turning 12 years old and wants Disney princess birthday. Is this too immature for her?

Answer 1

No. Why do we try to make kids grow up so fast. She will only have one 12th birthday. Give her what she wants. A lot of parents would be thrilled if their daughters wanted a Disney Party instead of a spin the bottle/ 7 minutes in heaven party. You're Lucky!

Answer 2

No she is still a child, when I was 12 I collected dolls and furbies, I even still used to play games like hop scotch, hide and seek and still would go on bouncy castles and slides, there is nothing wrong with having a disney princess birthday at that age or ANY age for that matter, I am NOW 21 and still LOVE Disney princesses and for my 21st birthday last year I asked for a disney princess birthday cake in which my parents got one for me, I even am still a doll collector now although I don't play with them anymore I just love to collect them. There is nothing wrong with that, you should be happy that this is what your daughter wants, 12 year olds nowadays are growing up too fast and wearing make-up and high heels and going out drinking for their 12th birthday parties, be thankful she is still a child and still likes things like that!

Answer 3

No. For my 11th birthday, I got a huge Mickey Mouse toy as a gift, and I had asked for it. My mom felt embarrassed buying the Mickey Mouse toy with a cake that said, "Happy 11th birthday". Now, I'm 14, and I'm still into stuffed animals, and I'm sure I'm not the only one. No big deal... Let her have the Disney princess birthday she wants... better a birthday that some say might be more fitting for a 5-7 year old that she would actually enjoy than to have some teenage-themed birthday that she wouldn't enjoy.

Answer 4

I think what you do (and the degree to which you have Disney Princess stuff at the party) depends on the "context":

When I was 16 I went to a Halloween party with my girlfriend, and the two of us thought it would be the funniest and coolest thing to wear those Ben Cooper Halloween costumes for children. Is this the type of thing your daughter is thinking?

Is she a "young-side" twelve who hangs out with other similiar girls?

Will this be a girls-only affair - in which case the other girls may be able to share any enjoyment of the "cuteness" of it? If boys are showing up, no Disney unless your daughter is being "cool" or ironic. You know what kind of girl she is (whether she is generally young for her years, whether she is super-cool, or whether she's the academic/intellectual who enjoys the humor of doing something kind of "cool").

Is she a kid who may not have had any big birthday parties before and wants one before she gets too old for this type of thing?

Is the party a huge event, or are there just a few of her close friends coming?

I know a lot of people on here think you should just let your daughter have the party she wants, but I can understand that you are concerned if she has a party that is seen as too immature it could get out among her classmates/other friends; and she could be ridiculed (unless, of course, she thinks it would cool or funny to have that theme). When my friend and I showed up at that Halloween party in our children's costumes nobody even got the joke because they were too stupid to know we weren't serious!!!

I think you probably know what the context of things is when it comes to the party, but maybe if you decide to go with it (and she's too young-thinking to realize) you could so something like keep the tablecloth plain pink or lilac, add sparkles whereever you can, and just have something like Disney plates and cups and maybe a decoration on the cake or a centerpiece that's Disney. If you add sparkles on things like balloons, use silver curling ribbons where you can to decorate (tie napkins that match the tablecloth), add some pink sprinkles to something like spritz cookies (Betty Crocker recipe that's super easy, and you can make stars with a cheap cookie press) you could play up the sparkly and pink and lilac thing while playing down the Disney thing.

If you did goodie bags and put mostly age-appropriate stuff in them but added a novelty Disney princess thing and tie the bags (plain or Disney) with sparkly ribbons it might work for whoever the guest are.

They ARE still young (but, again, I know what your concerns are). I think if you take an approach that plays up sparkle and just adds the Disney stuff for cuteness it could be pulled off without any concerns.

Answer 5

I agree that she shouldn't be made to grow up too fast. Hang on to this while you can because once it's gone, there's no turning back.

However, that being said, remember that there is a peer pressure issue beginning to take shape at that age. Early adolescents are pretty much all immature in their judgement (let's face it it's true) so there's a possibility that some of the kids you invite may be uncomfortable with it and may tease her as a result. I'm not saying that you shouldn't let her have the theme she wants -- after all she should be able to stay "young" as long as she wants, not to mention be happy. I'm just saying be prepared just in case of a fallout. If (and that's a big IF) she gets teased, she may need to "cry" to someone, and it'll be easier if you're ready for it. ;)

Later.

Answer 6

You little girl will grow up so fast and you will no longer have that precious little innocent person. Let her be a young lady with a princess pink birthday and hold fast to this beautiful memory. would you rather she be into rainbow parties like a lot of girls this age (Where they put lipstick on and perform oral on an older boy for fun)?. Come on, if my little girl is still into princess stuff at 12 I will cry from pleasure because I want her to have a childhood and be a happy little girl, withou adult worries that go along with adult behavior.

Answer 7

It's a little weird to be honest with you. Most girls your daughter's age are drooling over the boys from High School Musical. However, if all her friends are into it, I don't see why you shouldn't throw her the party she wants. I remember being really silly at that age. My friends and I insisted on being called boy names and we'd sing Disney songs to each other on the phone. I too insisted I was a princess. Maybe she's just got a silly sense of humor. Ask her WHY she wants the party.

Answer 8

It's her birthday. If it were my daughter I'd be planning a Disney Princess birthday party.

Answer 9

Personally my 10 year old wouldn't be caught dead having a princess party or going to one for that matter but if this is what your daughter wants let her have it. The only other worry that I would have is if the girls that she is going to invite feel as my daughter would and they don't show up. You should discuss this with her what she thinks her friends will think about this and if they said that they would come. Nothing would be worse than planning a party and having no one show up. Good luck.

Answer 10

How can this be immature for her if this is what she wants? It may be in the eyes of "society", but who cares? My daughter wanted a "Build a Bear" party on her 13th!!! I was so thrilled! She definitely knows what she likes and isn't afraid of peer pressure, just like your daughter! I think that's awesome! They will be strong women who know what they like and are not afraid of what other people think. We teach our kids to be individuals then question them, when they tell us what they want or enjoy.That is sending mixed messages. Who cares what others think? My daughter still dresses up at halloween and she is 14!! Don't worry, your daughter is just being how a little girl should be. It's all the other girls who are growing up too fast and missing out on being a little girl. Womanhood comes too fast these days.