me and my ex girl freind meet three years ago e became good freinds and co workes. then we became roomates after a while we got toghter after six months toghter we stated foghting about her drinking all the time she moved out and three days later i sleep with my ex girl freind when mandy ask me about i lyed to her because she said she wanted me back .we did get back toghter but then my father passed away i quit my job and started to shut her out. she started drinking a lot again and saying i was cheating on her and i was lying to her and the more she drank the more i shut her out.we broke up in december and she is now seeing other man she told all of are freinds i had cheated on her but we were no toghter whenn i sleep with my ex and i never sleep with any one else why we were toghter. and she still says i lyed to her . i really love her and do miss her she was the best woman i ever ment when she was sober she stop drink for him now and not for me how do i get are freindship back?
2007-01-29 04:16:05 · 17 answers · asked by dekers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry to say it this way but sounds like she will end up hurting you if you keep after this one. Maby you should allow some things to end. I know it's not easy but it will be easer than all the tough times if you keep after her. you'll figure it out.
2007-01-29 04:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by leo's den 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First repair the friendship, then see what happens. But as a friend or a lover shutting her out for something she's doing proves to make things worse. You have to go slow with this. Gain her trust by asking what you can do, how is she feeling? If the drinking is a problem, then there is something behind it. Pain that she's not telling anyone about. Try to be her frined and don't give up on her. Maybe she needs your support more now.
2007-01-29 12:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by ~* Garden Empress*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two options...
1. Move on, and don't repeat the same mistakes again.
2. Tell her that she is the only one for you, then demonstrate consistency. If she is to believe you again, the only way it will happen is if you demonstrate consistency in the way you treat her. Admit that you did the wrong thing, but let her know that her drinking was a factor. The depth of a relationship comes with time and consistency.
No single action or words will turn her around. Make a commitment and demonstrate CONSISTENCY.
2007-01-29 12:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Gordon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a lot to me like the both of you need to grow up. There is a lot of give and take, compromise and sacrifice in a relationship.
In a healthy and long lasting relationship, both partners need to communicate and be supportive of each others feelings. It was wrong of you to shut her out. that was the perfect time for her to shine as your friend, lover and partner.
The best thing for you to do is apologize for blowing her off with the intention of re-building the friendship...
you never know where it can go from there
2007-01-29 12:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Indigo7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kind, loving and have respect for yourself and her. Don't push nor make demands of her.
See if she would consider working on a project together.
Maybe a lunch. Keep it short, simple, show her your interested in her. Don't push nor have any expectations. Don't over do it.
Lead by example.
Her drinking concerns me, is she seeking help with that?
I think you have your hands full brother...
by best to you
2007-01-29 12:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call her up one day and see how she is doing be nice and sweet ask her would she like to go get something to eaat and start a friendship from there.
2007-01-29 12:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-08-18 19:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably outta just move on. If you are in public with another woman it is likely that she will be jealous and try to get back with you. That always works!
2007-01-29 12:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by Guerrilla M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard for girls to trust men because they always seem to be lying. just look in at it on her part.....imgine how she felt when you shut her out. just try to talk to her and tell her the truth say i want to just be friends at least because your a great person and if she is still rude then give it time
2007-01-29 12:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very screwed up story. Maybe you can sell the movie rights.
2007-01-29 12:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋