I asked him to help me and he is going to give me about 900.00. He does not make a lot of money, but has the money to give me. Now he tells me, "if we go away for the weekend, you need to help pay", etc.. What is this about??? If a guy likes you doesn't he enjoy paying for you? Is it right for a boyfriend to ask you to pay for dates??? I feel like this is telling me he doesn't really care for me that much. Somebody, please give me some true, solid advice.
2007-01-29 04:15:53 · 8 answers · asked by Rachel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you serious? This guy just gave you $900 and you dont think he cares about you. You even said he doesnt have a lot of money and for him to give it to you to help you out and your still questioning him.
2007-01-29 04:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by Stuey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two months, he doesn't make a lot of money, and you expect him to pay for everything? He's already giving you $900. It's probably tapping out his savings, so it's not unfair that he ask for you to help pay for a weekend together. He could turn that around, and say, this girl just keeps wanting money out of me, is she telling me she doesn't really care for me that much?
Personally I don't think it's right that a girl should insist on her guy paying for everything all the time. Get another job and share expenses. It's what adults do.
2007-01-29 12:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is giving you $900.00. His statement 'If we go away for the weekend, you need to help pay'. I think the $900.00 is a loan for you, until you either pay back or make up for it. Either pay him back all or make up for it by paying for something next time. $900.00 is a lot of money for some people. Guys are not made of money. It is ok for a girl to pay for dates, how about you compromise on that. One day he pays, then the next time you pay.
He does care for you. I think he is feeling like you only like him for his money, because you asked him for a substantial amount, he is probably stressed that he isn't going to recieve it back from you.
I don't understand to this day why women depend on a man to pay for everything. Why women aren't more independent? What happens if you split? Are you going to be able to take care of yourself financially? With a roof over your head, food on the table, your bills paid, clothes on your back. I wouldn't ask for money from him again. He is nice to give that money to you, until you find another job to live and get back on your feet. I would never ask a man for money. I am too independent that way.
2007-01-29 12:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm amaze that you can type all this out without feeling guilty.
First you mention that he does not make a lot of money. He is willing to give you his 900 bucks is good enough already, in fact very good when the rls is only 2 months.
Think from his point of view, he might feel "Is this girl materialistic? Or out to cheat my money?" Given that this relationship is only for 2 months, normal to doubt, even you doubt his care and love for you. Not wise for a normal person to give all his money away in a 2 month only rls.
Go away and have fun does not help lessen the financial problem. It is very normal for him to expect you fork out some money for the trip. Both are responsible to lessen the load.
Yes, I bet he loves you and enjoy paying for you, but there are days where he does not have that much money to spare. You know it, he doesn't make a lot = his money available to give you is limited.
2007-01-29 12:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by lemonfridge 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well even if you are the girl, it's still nice of you to pay for things every now and again. Guys are supposed to pay for alot of stuff but you can at least offer to pay for a few things. It's a nice gesture towards the guy. Just because he would like you to pay doesn't mean he doesn't really like you. And like you said, he doesn't make that much money, so maybe he would like a little help paying. He did give you $900 dollars didn't he, so maybe he's short of cash now.
2007-01-29 12:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by Diagonal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you were pretty bold to ask a guy you've only dated for two months to help pay the rent. If you are both adults what is wrong with going dutch on things, you really shouldn't expect him to pay for everything, I think you are very miss guided if you think a guy shows how much he cares by how much he spends on you, you have a lot to learn in life, be independent pay for yourself!!!
2007-01-29 12:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, but which is your attitude? I mean, you lost your job, but working hard to get one? or are asking for a free ride just for two months? He might fear that you are just using him, can he sees you working hard to get another job? Do anything, walk dogs, make desserts and sell them, I don't know, but he has to see you fighting, why do you think men are to be our slaves of money?
2007-01-29 12:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by monis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you care about selling yourself cheaply? gadhhh
2007-01-29 12:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lucas S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋