Dated this guy for almost a year, then left for a few months. Broke up while I was gone but now I am back and we have been hanging out a lot. When we were together, towards the end we fought a lot as I wasn't appreciating him at all. Since then, I have changed and although we are spending all our time together now, and I can tell he misses me, he says he refuses to get back together as we tried enough but still communicates and meets me everyday. People keep telling me to just continue chilling with him and not bringing up the past and he wil change his mind and the other side of it is to just let it go and never know, but also not be as hurt in the future. He's a wonderful guy, and I know he still loves me and I am willing to change... what to do?
2007-01-29 04:13:21 · 10 answers · asked by EMMA218 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi!,
I think you should just act cool and continue as friends , its going to be tough, i know because i have gone thru the same from the guys side, so just give it time , this time just ensure that u keep communicating and interacting and go all the way while talking showing him or indicating indirectly how you ave changed for the better.
I am sure you folks will get together back again because true love never fails, it might test you in various stages of life but it never fails so have faith :-)
2007-01-29 04:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by Kiran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he has no other romantic options but you he may be clinging to you for your attention and support...
I would say to make legitimate reasons to avoid him and occupy yourself with other aspects of your life and maybe the obvious shift in focus will give him a hint... If he sees that you now want to focus on your own life instead of constantly supporting his he may realize that you are good for him.
Make subtle changes and establish your relationship as friends then he may come around.
Be open to other possibilities though... a solid friendship is worth almost as much as a love intrest. Don't shun willing guys because of him though go out and date and that might give him the nudge he needed to take you back.
2007-01-29 04:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 03:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel i know your store but i am the guy. trying to win her back. ever one tells me to just be her freind again and to let things work out by them self if she really still loves me that we will get back toghter some day. i think you are in the same boat. i did love her then i love her now and i will always love her i will keep trying to be her freind untill she takes me back or i meet some else that i think i can live without. keep your head up and keep trying.
2007-01-29 04:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by dekers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change for a guy! If you do and it doesn't work out alot of people will not know the real you and not like you as much as they would if you acted like your real self.
2007-01-29 04:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had relations with this guy he probably just wants some more. If you didn't have relations he may be tried to get his shot back in.
If you didn't have relations but made it very clear you wouldn't he just may be a genuine nice guy who just wants a friend.
2007-01-29 04:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he was hurt and isn't ready to take that chance again....but also that he loves you too......just hang in there and see what happens......i think that it sounds as if things will work them selves out......don't push him though that may make things worse.....take your time and see.....if after a while you think that he really isn't going to be with you look at things then......for now enjoy your time together......if its ment to be it will be......hang in there and good luck
2007-01-29 04:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by Rhylie and Paiyden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. He's clearly stated that he doesn't want to get back with you. If you keep trying you'll only hurt yourself and him.
2007-01-29 04:21:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, thats an interesting question! lol! 20/F wondering the same thing... holla back
2007-01-29 04:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by Doris C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just give it up..............but if you truly love him work at it.
2007-01-29 04:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by Cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋