how do you tame a two year old?

Question

my two tear old grandson is a real handfull not just for his mum but everywere she takes him he destructs everything in site,shes got a baby 5 months but hes been like this since he could crawl he will not play with toys ect, just wants to play with anything thats dangerous hes a lovely little fella but how can we get him to calm down ? i fear the new baby will copy wen she gets older

Answer 1

Just say, "NO!" You have to be consistent, have immediate consequences, and talk to the child after the punishment to explain why their behavior was inappropriate. If you try to talk to him in the middle of a tantrum, he won't hear you. My grandchildren are better behaved with me than their parents.

Answer 2

Parenting classes are a great resource. It isn't just for people who don't know how to parent. It's a place where you gather great idea's and get insight from a teacher who is often a therapist or counselor. I loved them. They encourage you to bring your children as well. My daughters, who were about 8 and 12 at the time thought they didn't want to go and ended up participating and looking forward to going. Having them there is great because they hear from someone else what's ok and what isn't and they understand when the rules change why it happened. Nothing is pointed at anyone in these classes, and all questions are answered. You can sit and listen and gather new idea's or you can participate. It's very inexpensive for such a valuble resource. I think I paid $5.00 a week. An example of something I learned, and I use. in this class: Conseqences don't have to be immediate. You can keep a "Book of consequences" So when your child does something, you mark it down. You date it. Then when they come to you wanting to do something or have something new, really badly, you tell them, "Let's check the book and see if you have anything to pay off. If they do, then you remind them of what happened and tell them, sorry but not this time. You mark it paid back in full. It works great! When they lose something they really want, they don't like this. It makes them think twice. It has to be something they really want for them to feel the loss and make them want to change their behavior so this doesn't happen again. It's also done peacefully and lovingly. They have great information for parents with a young child or teenagers. Anyway, good luck to you!

Answer 3

Maybe he needs kids his own age to play with, since his active try to find a game he will jump and sing. My son is the same way, one day I caught him on top of the kitchen island, he was going to jump down. I know what you are going through, and it is hard but it gets better, when he gets older he will find something he likes, as for now try to read to him, tell him to tell you a story anything that will occupy him, and keep him from something dangerous. Try, to take him to dance or karate, or basketball, so he can use his energy in a positive way. The problem is they have too much energy and we don't have enough, I take my son to karate and the teacher starts off by discipline and self control.

Answer 4

Is it possible, that you're talking about my son? LOL.

I have the EXACT same problem with my 2 year old, Well, He's only 22 months but..

And he's been the same way since he was small and way before his sister was born (she's 3 months old).

I'll be checking back to see your answers. Hopefully someone can give some insight! :]

Best of luck, And sorry I wasn't any help!

Answer 5

We watch Supernanny and Nanny 911. Jo Frost/Supernanny says to droop right down to the newborn's eye point and firmly (without yelling) tell her what she is doing isn't suitable. Then positioned her in an afternoon out (the scale of time is one minute according to 300 and sixty 5 days of age). If she gets up, purely silently shop putting her back till she continues to be. whilst she finally lasts the two minutes, she might desire to exhibit regret to you, then you definately provide her a large hug and enable her be loose. whilst she misbehaves, repeat the technique. i've got seen it artwork endless cases on the instruct. can not harm to attempt it. additionally, attempt to observe the instruct whilst it starts off lower back q4. you will in all risk like it! Nanny 911 has already started and is large, too.

Answer 6

Spank his little butt. I know a lot of parents/grandparents don't believe in spanking these days, but when all else fails for me, a good butt whipping settles my son down. Time out failed, redirection failed, and I was at my wit's end, so I spanked him. It's still effective, and he's seven years old now.

Answer 7

there are alot of books out there on parenting. distraction was my tool.