Me and my ex just broke up. He supposably likes me, and I want him back!But my friend just surprised me that she likes him, and it looks likes shes trying to get him. Wat do I do?
2007-01-29 04:00:39 · 9 answers · asked by jessica L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him go. He's not worth it and she's no friend.
2007-01-29 04:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well becuz we don't know the underlying reasons as to WHY you broke up in the first place, I can only give an answer based on face value. Many ppl break up and make up a zillion times over. You need to ask him if your suspicions are correct, that he indeed DOES still like you the way you like him and decide if your relationship would be lost forever if this breakup would continue, or if it would allow both of you to have your space, create some distance that may allow you to see the issues for what they really are without being "in" the situation (seeing forest for the trees thing). Also, if your discovery of your friend's interest in your guy has suddenly fueled your remorse of breaking up, you must self examine your motives. It's natural to break up with someone and be upset at the thought of them moving on with someone else so quickly after you (whether your guy is pursuing the new relationship or some other girls has him in her sight). But jealously is not a reason to take him back. You might feel good about swooping in and grabbing him back just so the other girl knows you're winning that competition, but sooner or later your issues with your man will resurface and you are back to square one. And here's some food for thought from someone who's had a few husbands under her belt--I have found that when I've dismissed a man due to negative issues in a relationship that the guys caused, those gems tend to repeat the same negative patterns with their NEW girlfriends and it's a lovely place of peace to get to when you can witness that process, and one day say, "glad I'm out of that s**t" cuz he hasn't changed. Same problem, new girl. All of this is easier said than done, but take it from an older woman when i say life is too short to be unhappy with any man and there is always another really GOOD man that will meet all of your expectations just around the corner--never settle.
2007-01-29 04:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by Princess L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is way out of line... she's moving in waaaaaayyy to quickly here. Tell her how you feel... then tell him how you feel... If he loves you, he'll come back to you... unless of course you did the breaking up and hurt him really badly.
Honesty is the best policy... and if she wants to ruin the friendship between you two, let her... the ball's in her court. It's no skin off your back. You've done nothing wrong.
2007-01-29 04:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make it clear to her asap that you are going to try and work things out. IF she still proceeds to step on your toes over this guy, then she is NOT a good friend and you should drop her fast.
2007-01-29 04:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is your friend she would not be trying to mess with your ex first of all, and if they want to hook up then let him go,you can find someone better
2007-01-29 04:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by misseshodges 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really fair game, if she knew that you still liked him and he still liked you she should wait to see what happens between you.
2007-01-29 04:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by jakethesnake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is not your friend and he is not worth bothering about.
2007-01-29 04:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you still have feelings for him.
2007-01-29 04:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by venturemomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shut up now
2007-01-29 04:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by poster451 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋